How long does it usually take to achieve wd?

[Pokke]

I know everybody's answers will be different, but I was just curious to see how long it takes for some. I don't think I've ever gone a month without o, so maybe that's why I haven't had a wd

[LockedDreamer]

For me, 2 weeks is typical, but I've gone as many as 4-5 without one.

[DryGuy]

I've had a few streaks between 4 and 7 weeks, still haven't had one.

[DryGuy]

I've searched for answers to this many times, and I can relate to the need to have this question answered. I'm not willing to abstain forever, for the sake of satisfying my WD curiosity. The deal seems to be "abstain forever and keep your fingers crossed", and that's about all anyone can say. Which isn't at all satisfying for my mind.

In terms of a deal, where I trade x weeks of abstinence in exchange for a WD, there is a cut-off point. Beyond which no sexual experience or curiosity is worth the sleepless nights and constant distraction of horniness and denial. This is a problem for those of us with bags of curiosity, but very little else to motivate long term abstinence. If I had religious reasons, or some kind of porn addiction, it might be enough... but I don't. So I need to know what this deal entails in terms of sexual denial.

I didn't want to derail your thread with a long post, since it's not what you asked for, but I don't expect much activity here. We don't have enough users here to conduct statistically-significant research. So I'll try to answer the root question for you, based on my own exhaustive search of the same question...
If I had to give one answer, I'd say give it 45 days. This is the average I've seen most often in my travels.

I saw a poll on Reddit years ago during "No Nut November", where participants were asked whether they'd had a wet dream during their month of abstinence, and the people who answered "Yes" were less than a third. Approximately 300 people responded. Which I'd say is the most significant piece of data I've ever seen. Because these are people who usually masturbate, but are taking a month off. This isn't a study of people who've been selected for that study because they've already been celibate for years (and have an established pattern of wet dreams)... these are average Joes, many abstaining a month for the first time in their lives.
I think it is worth giving it a month, to see if you're in that lucky minority, but I'd be prepared to push it out to two months.
Though having said that, if you did go 2 months of abstinence without a WD, subsequent abstinence streaks become very demotivating. Because there might be no "magic number" of days, and you've learned what ever that magic number is, it's over 60.
This is where I am now, having pushed myself to 7 weeks once, and 30 days about 4 times. There is very little novelty or hope. The thought that "tonight may be the night" is what kept me going for a long time. But having this amount of certainty that absolutely nothing is going to happen for the first month, makes me not want to bother trying again.

Of course there's always the chance that my attitude was working against me. I coped through this period of denial by erotisizing it; trying to enjoy the fullness on some sexual level (to have my cake and eat it too). I think this may have contributed to an increase in semen in my urine, and a discharging of what ever psychological sexual tension might be necessary for WDs. And I say this, because my ab-streaks have been plagued by a conspicuous lack of sexual dreams. Whereas that one week where I abstained unintentionally (because I wasn't interested and couldn't be bothered), I had one of the most overtly sexual dreams of my life, and a dream I would have loved to have had on night 30.

So saving up sperm, and counting days might be far too simplistic. Maybe if I tried again, and was able to completely take my mind off sexual matters, I might have a WD in far less time. I find it very difficult to test that conjecture though. I think the only way I can proceed at this point is to experiment with abstinence for its effects on my motivation, mood, and creativity.

What confounds this further, is that I've read people on /r/semenretention saying they've completely overcome wet dreams by various means, and haven't had a WD in over a year. So thinking about it in terms of "a physical inevitability given enough time", might not be anywhere near close to reality. It seems to me, that the quality of abstinence might be just as important as the duration.
For example, there are people who can fully ejaculate without touching themselves (while awake), it's not too much of a stretch to think this could be an ability lots of us have on some minor level without knowing it. Maybe the gratification someone feels during a long period of abstinence might be some internal form of this, where semen is expelled in small amounts on a regular basis.

[Pokke]

For me, 2 weeks is typical, but I've gone as many as 4-5 without one.

Do you remember whether or not if you edged or watched porn before bed? Or did you just ignore the fact you had a penis . I see where it helps some to edge before sleeping, and then I've seen where it helped some to not think about anything sexual at all. What is your method that works best for you?

[Pokke]

I've had a few streaks between 4 and 7 weeks, still haven't had one.

Do you remember whether or not if you edged or watched porn before bed? Or did you just ignore the fact you had a penis . I see where it helps some to edge before sleeping, and then I've seen where it helped some to not think about anything sexual at all. What is your method that works best for you? (I copy and pasted same question because I'm lazyyyyyy )

[Pokke]

I've searched for answers to this many times, and I can relate to the need to have this question answered. I'm not willing to abstain forever, for the sake of satisfying my WD curiosity. The deal seems to be "abstain forever and keep your fingers crossed", and that's about all anyone can say. Which isn't at all satisfying for my mind.

In terms of a deal, where I trade x weeks of abstinence in exchange for a WD, there is a cut-off point. Beyond which no sexual experience or curiosity is worth the sleepless nights and constant distraction of horniness and denial. This is a problem for those of us with bags of curiosity, but very little else to motivate long term abstinence. If I had religious reasons, or some kind of porn addiction, it might be enough... but I don't. So I need to know what this deal entails in terms of sexual denial.

I didn't want to derail your thread with a long post, since it's not what you asked for, but I don't expect much activity here. We don't have enough users here to conduct statistically-significant research. So I'll try to answer the root question for you, based on my own exhaustive search of the same question...
If I had to give one answer, I'd say give it 45 days. This is the average I've seen most often in my travels.

I saw a poll on Reddit years ago during "No Nut November", where participants were asked whether they'd had a wet dream during their month of abstinence, and the people who answered "Yes" were less than a third. Approximately 300 people responded. Which I'd say is the most significant piece of data I've ever seen. Because these are people who usually masturbate, but are taking a month off. This isn't a study of people who've been selected for that study because they've already been celibate for years (and have an established pattern of wet dreams)... these are average Joes, many abstaining a month for the first time in their lives.
I think it is worth giving it a month, to see if you're in that lucky minority, but I'd be prepared to push it out to two months.
Though having said that, if you did go 2 months of abstinence without a WD, subsequent abstinence streaks become very demotivating. Because there might be no "magic number" of days, and you've learned what ever that magic number is, it's over 60.
This is where I am now, having pushed myself to 7 weeks once, and 30 days about 4 times. There is very little novelty or hope. The thought that "tonight may be the night" is what kept me going for a long time. But having this amount of certainty that absolutely nothing is going to happen for the first month, makes me not want to bother trying again.

Of course there's always the chance that my attitude was working against me. I coped through this period of denial by erotisizing it; trying to enjoy the fullness on some sexual level (to have my cake and eat it too). I think this may have contributed to an increase in semen in my urine, and a discharging of what ever psychological sexual tension might be necessary for WDs. And I say this, because my ab-streaks have been plagued by a conspicuous lack of sexual dreams. Whereas that one week where I abstained unintentionally (because I wasn't interested and couldn't be bothered), I had one of the most overtly sexual dreams of my life, and a dream I would have loved to have had on night 30.

So saving up sperm, and counting days might be far too simplistic. Maybe if I tried again, and was able to completely take my mind off sexual matters, I might have a WD in far less time. I find it very difficult to test that conjecture though. I think the only way I can proceed at this point is to experiment with abstinence for its effects on my motivation, mood, and creativity.

What confounds this further, is that I've read people on /r/semenretention saying they've completely overcome wet dreams by various means, and haven't had a WD in over a year. So thinking about it in terms of "a physical inevitability given enough time", might not be anywhere near close to reality. It seems to me, that the quality of abstinence might be just as important as the duration.
For example, there are people who can fully ejaculate without touching themselves (while awake), it's not too much of a stretch to think this could be an ability lots of us have on some minor level without knowing it. Maybe the gratification someone feels during a long period of abstinence might be some internal form of this, where semen is expelled in small amounts on a regular basis.

That seems to happen to me, as well; I would reset and, for me, it was ALWAYS night 2 that I had a sex dream. I have never made it past a month, but I have a feeling that this time I will. I just want one more wd, that's literally all then I would probably mb every single day

[Texanguy]

...In terms of a deal, where I trade x weeks of abstinence in exchange for a WD, there is a cut-off point. Beyond which no sexual experience or curiosity is worth the sleepless nights and constant distraction of horniness and denial.

As I've said in other places here on WDF, don't make it all about negativity and discipline. Guys who successfully pull away from MB do so because they find they want to explore and enjoy the natural horniness of AB. The WDs will follow. As long as you make AB all about 'suffering' and 'enduring', you'll probably never succeed. But millions of guys are indeed MB addicts, and it's not the end of the world if you remain one of them.

But if you want AB and WDs, do your best to embrace and enjoy the natural horniness that goes with it. Make it 'fun' to AB longer and longer. Enjoy prolonging and enjoying the horniness while realizing that MB terminates it.

Take smaller steps at first. Go an extra day. Go several days. Go a month. Enjoy the horniness rather than immediately terminating it with MB.

Another reason for embracing and enjoying the horniness of AB is that the amount of 'suffering' you'd otherwise endure on your way to a WD probably wouldn't be worth it, and you'd probably just go back to regular MB immediately after one WD anyway.

You must have read "Quotes from guys who loved their WDs and compared to MB" (viewtopic.php?t=7)
Several in it describe moving on from MB to WDs. They now love being full time WDers. They no longer have the MB habit and don't want it.

Change your brain. Move away from the MB habit while enjoying the horniness. Maybe play volleyball at a nude beach. Eat breakfast nude. You'll love the WDs when they come.

[LockedDreamer]

For me, 2 weeks is typical, but I've gone as many as 4-5 without one.

Do you remember whether or not if you edged or watched porn before bed? Or did you just ignore the fact you had a penis . I see where it helps some to edge before sleeping, and then I've seen where it helped some to not think about anything sexual at all. What is your method that works best for you?

Well I don't usually edge, because I'm locked in a cock cage most of the time. But I watch porn fairly regularly. Anecdotally I seem to be more likely to have a wet dream if I use prostate toys before bed, but nothing conclusive.

[DryGuy]

Do you remember whether or not if you edged or watched porn before bed? Or did you just ignore the fact you had a penis .

I wasn't edging, but I definitely didn't ignore the fact that I had a penis. I found it hard to take my mind off the feeling that there was an unusual pressure inside me. In this condition I'd also sometimes experience these rushes of arousal, which I'd "lean into" and try to prolong. Trying to ride these feelings only made the horniness worse. I think in a way, this could be looked at as some form of edging. And I wonder if this is part of why I had semen in my urine several times.
But then there were stretches of days, where things would settle down, and I could mostly ignore it.
Ideally I'd like to try some kind of "monk mode", where I can fully ignore it, but my body is pretty insistent in reminding me.