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Hey everyone, Imoved this post on the general discussion board to here. I am new to this forum and in search of finally being able to quit masturbation. Or at least quit until I see the other side. I am married and have sex 3 times a week or so. I have not ejaculated in any kind of way in 9 days, which beats my longest by 2 days. Last time was easier!

I don't know how long I can abstain from having sex with my wife as she will not like that, but I want to not have sex until I have my very first wetdream. I have never had one!! How do you guys get around the gf or wife sex thing? let me know.

For the past 2 or 3 days I noticed semen come out of my penis when I pass a bowel movement. Just a few drops, sometimes mixed with pee, but I either never noticed or never had this happen before. I tend to notice everything now that i am trying to go as long as i can. Is this something that goes with no sexual activity, does this mean i am closer to a WD?

To give you guys a quick summary of me:

I am 28 and on avg I masturbated 1-2 sometimes more, every day. So much that it became boring, and I had to keep on getting creative with ways to please myself; prostate massage etc. I looked at porn almost every day. As much or more than my wife spends on facebook. Porn didnt interrupt how much I wanted to have sex with my wife+did have sex with my wife, but it probably curbed how much more I would have annoyed her to have sex if I didn't.

I believe my horniest day was day 5 with 6 and 7 not so much at all, and 8-9 gradually increasing again. Day 5 i did edge to a degree. No precum etc. I have looked at porn through these 9 days, more so on the days i did not have erections as much so that i would induce erections which in turn should induce releases of testosterone. Day 7,8+9 i have noticed alot of anxiety/nervousness. Dont know if these go hand in hand with not ejaculating in that amount of days. Maybe you guys could let me know. The most i would ever go without ejaculating in a year is 3 days, one time 7 and other 5 day and a few 3's. So my body is definitely not used to 9!

My balls do achy multiple times a day for varying periods. My prostate is obviously overfilled since it is seeping out into my urine and when i make a bowel movement. I have had no SE's, no leakage into my underwear throughout ther day, nothing in my underwear when i wake up. I do feel like i think about getting a WD and about abstaining from just MB'ing so much that it rules my thoughts throughout the day. Most people on here say abstaining helps them concentrate and be motivated. I think about this more than i think about masturbating. I just want to get through the day, get home, get erections, not touch them, go to bed and get a WD. but the WD's are obviously not happening.

Im afraid my wife will want to have sex before i accomplish the WD....making all of this a waste to some respect. 9 days and counting guys........will post back soon...Would like to hear your thoughts.

welcome to this forum.

i think you need to be mentally prepared for the fact that u may get WD very soon (judging from the fullness that you have described) or even that you may not get WD even after abstaining for a long period of time. I have abstained for 3 months but nothing happened to me.

You may just continue to experience leakage here and there but yet still doesn't get any WD.

wish you all the best.

scorkin21

way to get my hopes up.... lol

Ok. im on day 10 and day 11 starts tomorrow. I would say same hornyness as yesterday. I have been reading the www.aneros.com forum and it is really making me want to wip out my aneros. I never had what they call a super orgasm but supposedly you need to re-wire your brain and being horny, extremely horny help bring on a super orgasm. i have never went this long with MB'ing so maybe i could achieve this super hands free orgasm with the aneros...???? Im dying to try and might have to. If it doesnt work I can always not jerk off and keep going with abstaining....

somehow i feel that if u use the aneros and u manage to achieve the super orgasm that you mentioned, together with ejaculation, then i think that you will have to reset ur day counter, cause the ejaculation is a result of your actions. Unless you only have an orgasm without any ejaculation, then i think the counter still continues.

to all fellow FMs, not really sure if i'm right about this. Please advise on this.

Lots of thanks.

scorkin21

So this is my conclusion:

I used the aneros+felt pretty close to a super-o, but it wasn't to be. I then MB'd afterwards! It was great and I had no guilty feeling or emptiness. I felt good! I even had sex with the wife that night and had more ejaculate to e-jaculate. Today I'm am still horny. 10 days was bringing me to the brink of craziness.

I do see a benefit to not MB'ing if you are single and want that extra edge or whatever to find a mate. But once you have a mate, abstaining from sex is not smart. No matter what thursday says. As he is single. WD's no matter how great they feel, they aren't a real connection with a "real" person.

I will from now on hold off MB'ing for 5-7 days. I think it will improve my sex life and improve my chance of getting a super-o or WD. I will not turn down the wife in order to achieve this WD. Only if you want to live through your dreams. Dreaming about having a 3some with 2 chicks and achieving a WD I am sure would be amazing, but doing it real life would be even better. That should be the real goal. Plus, you feel like a man and master of women+the bedroom if you can pull it off. And that in and of itself shines from you and attracts women. WD's.....not so much. Good luck!

Has been some time!

A few years back I did get to 13 days of no MB or intercourse. That time was nuts. By day 13 I was so senditve. Just kissing my wife got me hard. Putting lotion on her back got me hard. So we needed up with her trying to make me orgasm without touching my junk. Was erotic but my mind wasn't locked in. She ended up giving me head. In years she has only swallowed once and choked and maybe head 3 other times where I came. This time she does it and takes a 13 day load like a champ. It was amazing. I couldn't believe it.

Today I am on day 9....... Same reasons with some additional ones as last time. Last few years bc of work and distractions, I have hardly worked out nor have I eaten well. I haven't gained much wait, but I can't keep having this routine.

For whatever reason, when I don't have sex or MB, I have more energy and desire to work out and eat better. It helps me get into a better routine and motivated to stick to that routine. Abnormal? You guys tell me, but it does it for me. I told the wife I was to go 2 more weeks 21 total days before we have sex again. She thinks I'm nuts. It I told her to let me get in a better pattern and then we can start having sex again. I also told her to not MB either for those two weeks.

If that happens we will likely tear ourselves to pieces by the time we do have sex. It would be nice to keep it where we can't mb and only have sex. I don't think that would help with getting wd's and likely hinder them, but it would build up excitement. Wish me luck and any thoughts are welcome.

You haven't mentioned why you want a WD. But I totally understand wanting a better sex life.

IMO as long as you have talked things over with your wife I think you're good to go. ABing indeed makes sex or even MBing better. Though I don't see myself ABing and wanting a wetdream if I was married. Maybe I may try to get a WD as a once in a while thing cos I think sex with a spouse is healthy.
I recently got introduced to aneros, never even heard of it until a month ago. I am open to trying it as I have never done anything anal before. Anyway, best of luck in your sex life!

And yeah any sexual activity resets the counter but who cares.

Thanks. In regards to your question on why I want a WD....it's bc I have never had one. At least from I remember. I do remember times in my life I dreamt of a highly erotic situation where I was about to orgasm and then I wake. Never takes off.

Goal here though is hopefully a WD, but more than likely I'm wanting to channel my sexual desires towards my wife only and restrain myself to pleasuring myself. I also want her to do the same, and I think f both of us do so, our sex life will be off the hook.

My 21 day goal is for me to break my past record, get in a focused, working out rhythm, give my wife time to build up her ABing, and in the process hopefully get a WD.

I have tried the aneros btw to see how great this prostate thing is. Male g spot. My prostate unfortunately is not that sensitive. Even after many days of abstaining, I can't get that super o, I don't drip precum, nor does it milk me at all. It can at the right times get me hard and be pleasure full, but can't get what I want from it. Have the helix and the progasm. Figured the progasm might do the trick. It hasn't yet.

I am also restoring my foreskin. Been doing it every day for the last 9 month. Some progress but it is a very slow process. Waiting for the bunched up skin behind corona to push over. Likely not till next year.

Btw. Last night was extremely tough. I drifted to sleep, felt like I only slept for a minute and woke up extremely horny with a very passionate desire to go down on my wife. I started ripping at her underwear and pissed her off, and this morning she told me it was like 3am when I did this. It did not seem like that much time went by. Crazy. I've been in so much control even when horny, but last night I almost lost my composure if she gave in,

10 days tomorrow!

Day 10 was quite easy. I did try to get some hands free erections by looking at some porn just to keep the blood flowing, but other than that was smooth sailing. Couple precum droplets got pressed out while doing some squats after watching some of that porn.

One thing that hasn't happened which happened on day 9 a few years back is a small drop of cum shooting out after I take a #2. One thing I haven't done this time though which I did back then is edge. No edging, which might be the reason why I'm not pushing out semen when pooping. I isn't trying to hard either as I want to keep it in.

Nevertheless. That is day 10 summary.

Day 11 down and onto day 12.

Day 11 was a unique day:

For one, I spent much of it finding the best way to keep my glans covered while restoring my foreskin. I have a retainer made by the dtr device guy, but that's plastic on your glans and a bottle nipple that grips the skin. Others tape the skin over the glans, and some use rubber o-rings. I ended up finding this idea on line to use transparent dressing by tagederm that you cut into a strip, is invisible,close around your penis, and once you push your glans down through it, it holds your skin over the glans. Pretty ingenious and looks as though I was never circumsized...

Secondly, I'd been drooling over my wife all day. After 8 days of abstaining I've been dying to go down on her. Tonight I had my chance. We both got naked, I gave her a full body massage and then went down on her to orgasm. I then told her to not touch my penis and just tease me as much as possible anywhere else. Our whole session was an 1hr and 30 min. I was erect the entire, yes, entire time. And 20min before we really started. Time flew. No blue balls since she didn't touch my penis, but I was leaking precum a lot, and I wanted to finish in her so bad...but I have control. I don't know if I will want to go past this weekend without having sex, but I'll will see.

It's good to want to kiss your wife bc it pleasures you. Holding her hand does, and just anything she does gets you hard. That just hasn't happened in so long bc of masturbation. I MB, she mbs here and there, and our sexual drive towards each other then diminishes. I enjoy her like we first started dating now that I haven't mb'd in 11, now going on 12 days...

My promise to her is I will stop MB from here on out and just channel my desires towards her, or at the very most, I will MB every so often, but not every week.

Keep you posted on any new news. Btw, I'm going to wanna try and have sex with that transparent dressing I mentioned. It really helps take the skin I have grown, not enough for full coverage flaccid, and makes it look and act like a real foreskin. My head can stay behind it barely when erect, and you can't even see or feel the dressing. Barely see it. Can't feel it with hand. About time to show her what my natural penis would feel like gliding inside of her.

Day 12. Nothing really eventful happened. Still easily aroused.

Today is day 14. Yesterday I decided to dabble in prostate massage. Was always curious of prostate milking which I have never been successful at before and being 13 days gets your mind into wanting to try. If it doesn't work then, I don't see how it does.

Well.....I figured out how to do it correctly and dripped about a full teaspoon of milky white fluid out. One thing I never did was bear down somewhat while pressing the massager towards my prostate while moving out of you know what. Well that achieves a milking. I didn't MB afterwards and still feel horny this morning. Probably effects WD but not my MB abstinence, or currently sexual abstinence.

DAY 15
Day 14 I woke extremely horny. Was hoping to have sex with wife but she had a hangover and wasn't that worked up or able to be worked up to make it worth wasting a 14 day AB on non passionate sex.

I have for the first time been able to find a deep good feelings from massaging my prostate with my finger. Last night I gave it a gentle consistent rub,which felt good, combined with stroking the penis the pleasure is intense I knew it would be enough that if I stopped stroking at a certain point and then just gave prostate massage Id start cumming all over. So I stopped.

I would like to see if it is possible to not milk the prostate but to achieve orgasm through prostate massage alone. Meaning no penile stim. Being on my 15th day, and if my wife works me up enough tonight I think it will be possible and I am ultra curious of how that will feel.

I told my wife that I really don't want to have sex or MB until she can make me cum hands free/no penile stim.

Wish me luck. A handsfree orgasm, especially anally induced, is a mystery to me and is something I'm curious of as much as a wetdream. So one of the other is going to happen first. That's my goal and I think the wife will be able to do it. Eventually!

Day 16
Today I had to travel for work. No real urges to report. I worked on restoring foreskin for most of the day which kind of restricts chances at erections bc of the tension on the skin. About to head to bed now. See what happens.

Looking like 3 weeks might end up being an easy task but we all know that you can have a lull and the next day you are raging and it is hard to hold back. Keep you all posted.

My goals remain the same as described above. Hands free/penile stim free orgasm or WD. One is going to happen....at some point

Day 17
So this morning was quite interesting. I keep on reading that the longer you abstain, the better chance you have at an anal/prostate orgasm with no stim to penis necessary. In many case it will stay soft through the orgasm and the orgasm itself is a slow build up from the inside of your body and explodes to feel 2x or more of what a penis orgasm feels like. Sometimes cum comes out and it's possible it won't either. Depends on the person, meaning there is also a good chance this won't effect your WDs

Please take note that this is very different than the milking I described. Milking is forceful pushes/strokes on prostate to move semen out of your penis, not leading to orgasm. Prostate only orgasm is also a different intensity than beating off and rubbing your prostate at the same time, and it supposedly leaves you feeling dramatically different than a penis O, on cloud 9... From what I've read of course.

So in the shower this morning I had to give it a try. I squatted and stuck my finger up there, found the prostate and just slowly and softly stroked it and circled it. And little by little it kept feeling better and better, and then really good, and then my penis started getting some blood flow and jumped a little and then it was starting to get to the intensity that I felt if I keep going I am going to explode/cum and it is going to be amazing. But then I stopped. I sat there and said to myself, "holy shit, this is possible and it's going to be awesome".

I promised my wife I would not cum unless I was with her. And I am a man of my word. So tonight I am going to tell her that we are getting it on, and honey you are going to tease me for a while and then massage my prostate to orgasm. It's an experience I have never had and I'm not jerking off or having sex until it happens.

I see know way at this point, and the build up could have only gotten better and better if I kept going, that a wetdream is more satisfying than this prostate O. I've also read people describe it as the feeling before the O is like the best penis O, and then it just keeps building past that where you can't believe it, and then explodes on you. I'm telling you guys. Forget the aneros. Take your finger if you have abstained for a while, and just lightly massage your Prostate. And just continue to do so until it starts feeling good and then better and better. It can take some time to start building but keep going...

If I have one of these O's tonight, I will certainly be writing back to tell you that ABing to work towards a prostate O is worth it. Wish me luck!

So I got home that night and the wife and I got worked up in bed and everything seemed like it was going to go my way. 17 days of ABing, I'm horny as hell, and the I tell my wife that I want her to try and make me come with her finger in my ass. She is ocd and the threat of poop does not affect her well. But she wants to make me happy and give me something I've never had (a prostate O). Problem is she doesn't know what she is doing so it doesn't work out well and we end up having great sex, long O for me, really good, but no a prostate O. And hopefully a kid in the next 9 months but again.....no prostate O!

I was f'in a few rubs away just hours before then and decided not to to wait for her and now it has eluded me...for now. Very frustrating. Wish I pulled the trigger when I could have.

What should I do next??

DAY 11

Ok. So it could be day 12 or 13 but It is at least day 11 since I can't remember before then for sure. Been reading a lot about Taoism and semen retention lately. Pretty interesting and should make total sense to the folks on this forum. Goal is to retain your life force and the more you retain the better you feel and more confident and stronger you are.

Difference is they still have sex and ensure they use that sexual energ albeit without ejaculating. So what that means is they have mastered the separation between orgasm and ejacualtion. Yes, this is possible. We just aren't trained to do so. These men become multi orgasmic. Full blown which turn into body orgasms and they can decide to cum or not. They recommend an ejacualtion once every 6 weeks or even once or twice a year. But they DO NOT recommend abstinence or trying to curb your sexual thoughts or orgasms.

Much is to be learned and work to be done to train yourself to be multi orgasmic and have total control over ejacualtion. Would be good to see most folks on this forum trying this in conjunction with their wetdream goal.

Keep in mind they try to train their brains NOT to have wetdreams so that they can continue to retain their semen. How they do that is they still have sex and channel their desires towards their partners. Seems like the big key here is separating orgasm and cumming. Once they can do this they can orgasm profusely since there is no refractory period, they have no sense of loss or down feeling afterwards, and continue on their sexual high.

You can research yourself by googling semen retention methods.

So anyhow, I'm giving this a shot. I think my biggest issue is going to be the lack of practice during MB and the fact I am at day 11. I really do not want to try to see if my PC muscles are strong enough to cut off ejaculating right after orgasm and then lose it all.

So I think my goal is to work towards successfully having a Prostate only massage orgasm, which I almost had months ago after ABing for 16 days. That's my goal and then after I onecday do this, I'll try holding back and separating O and ejacualtion.

Id say have sex with your wife, unless she consents to this. If she is okay with this, perhaps she can help to make this happen for you. Also, be sure to take your vitamins, exercise, and eat healthy. Try wearing different types of tight and loose clothing to bed as well. It can take months for this to happen, but if its what you want to do, and your wife is up for it, go for it.

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Day 13
Funny enough. Today I've been the most energized sexually. I contribute that to connections with my wife last night that gets the mind thinking a certain way. Many days before last night were spent traveling and working.

Yesterday day 12 I did try a prostate massage with the intent of seeing how much I could milk it and almost nothing came out. Don't know if that was due to lack of sexual arousal or what but I know last time around this point I could almost make spoonful come out. So either lack of arousal like I said or less moment getting horny had played into the gland not storing much fluid or being engorged enough to press any fluid out.

Those are my impressions thus far.

I'll see where this goes

Day 15

Day 14 had nothing much to report. Definitely horny and t buzz but just worked through it. Concentrated on restoring foreskin and getting through the day.

Today day 15, the morning has started with wood. Through 15 days I can't remember any sexual dreams. Last night I do remember grabbing my wife's ass through the night bring horny but nothing I guess that made any wetdream or anything else happen.


My record is 17 days...so getting close!

Day 17
It's the morning and no morning wood. No horniness thus far. I've had no dreams from what I can remember either lately.

On day 16 I did, as I have been, continued to try and get that prostate orgasm feeling back so I can follow through and have one for first time. Feel like I've been close to getting to that relaxed and good fleeting state but just hasn't happened. One thing I have noticed is that by day 10/11 in the past Id push out semen by taking a #2. That hasn't happened this time around. I mean a little bit of sticky fluid has made its way to tip but not frequently and not pushing out like other times. Don't know if this has to do with frequent prostate massage, but it's not like the massage has been pushing out and fluid bc it hasn't.

In addition, when I did almost hit that prostate O, my prostate was engorged. I haven't felt it real good any of the time I have tried this time around. Weird. My only guess it has been the lack of sexual stimulation from wife or myself. Therefore fluids haven't built up the same.

Any thoughts?

Well, it's seems like day 17 will be easy but as most of us know, you never know when feelings will kick in. My goal is still a prostate O so I will continue on. Once I get that, hopefully it is a dry O and I then can work on multiple Os without ejac.

I am also still convinced that what all of us are aiming for is orgasm without ejac. Which provides us fun as the feeling we want without that sense of disappointment and loss of energy. Look up mantak chia. Male multiple orgasm.

Day 19
Nothing much to report. Wishing I was having more random boner or morning wood or nighttime wood that wake me up but I haven't had any of it. Weird. My only guess is the prostate massages ward off MB urges or tension build up even if it isn't releasing ejacualte.

Thus my experiment from this point should be to not touch prostate and see how sexual desires change over the next few days to week.

Any thoughts would be appreciated. And if anyone who is abstaining and who is very horny or close to breaking could massage their prostate for a while and see how it affects their urges over that would be good to see too and further prove my hypothesis

Day 21

Day 20 was a good day. Good amount of sexual energy but nothing new to report in regards to any of my posts above. Still no prostate O success and still going strong in my effort. Would be nice to achieve a month. I have had no sexual dreams. Not one. And hardly any dream I remember and no nocturnal erections. Very weird. I used to have these wake me up during all of my abstaining periods. Maybe BC my goal this time is different it is changing its reaction.

I'm sure once my wife's period ends this week that I will naturally gravitate towards her in bed

Day 22

Good day today. Well still no prostate O nor have I tried a multiple O but really horny today and woke up relaxing with my wife and getting teased and I had a hard on for at least an hour. I think extreme horniness builds up the juices bc later I took a number two and it's squirted out Semen. Why it did now vs 10 days ago I believe all has to do with how Horny you are during day and how long you have an erection combined with if someone is edging etc. that's the only difference between today and other days.

Day 24

Still no damn prostate O. It's samn elusive and I'm getting angrier each day thinking I could have made it happen but stopped just short. Bullshit dumb move on my part. It came about so easy when I tried that time and when I was about to hit orgasm and stopped I said "wow, I can do this any time" Nope. Looks like I can't. Mind has to be just right, prostate has to be engorged just right and I can't get myself Horny without my wife.

Jerking it for a while actually tends to refocus you towards your penis and prostate just doesn't become senditve.

I'm going to keep chugging. I likely need to take days off from even think of or trying a prostate o and or wait till wife gets me excited for a while and then do it to myself. Dunno.

Day 25
last night was a trip. Got sexual with the wife. She hadn't cum for over a week. I went down on her, made her O, had intercourse with her and made O.....and all while making sure I didn't blow my load.

Yes. It was hard. But it also felt good to have that control and it was obviously pleasureable. I almost lost it a few times and had to pc squeeze tight and stop motion but regained my composure quickly. I light have dribbled a few drops in her but not quite sure.

I was left with this relaxing sexual feeling in my groin and huge erection that wouldn't go away for some time. This morning I had big morning wood and very horny likely bc of last night.

I think my wife is actually turned on by me not ejacualting. For one she likes I'm horny all the time and get boners by just her saying certain things to me or touching my leg or whatever. I have more of a desire to go down in her which of course she likes. And me showing control and ability to end s session without me cumming, yet still feeling a sense of satisfaction is amazing to her as well.

I tell you. I did want to practice the multiple orgasm/semen retention Technique by orgasming in her but coming out right before I blow and squeezing my PC muscles. Back a few years ago while trying NOT to get pregnant I would have sex with her missionary, at least as a finishing position, and Id start to orgasm in her and just when I felt Id start squirting Id pull out fast, stand up on my knees and start beating off on her. What would happen is Id get the orgasm from when I was in her, when Id pull out and start jerking off the orgasm would subside, contractions would be continuing but no squirting yet, then another orgasm would come on, more contractions and then squirting. Yes. Multiple O.

I want to pull this off again. It's not like it happened once then, I got it to happen many times when trying not to get her pregnant but would only work in the position I described. Not that I was trying to make it work in other positions. At the time I just thought of it as an odd occurrence and didn't put two and two together.

My goal this time would be to not go for the second O and squirt but to let the first O subside some more and then enter her again till orgasm and do the same move so I dont cum. And see how long I can't continue this. I'm sure I'll fuck up the first time and kill my AB period. And I do my prostate O before I try the above. Hopefully I get what I want but it seems like it might be the multiple O first. If I can actually pull off the multiple O without cumming, then my prostate O will still be attainable.

*Please, any comments or thoughts would be appreciated along this journey.

Day 26

Going to take a good break from massaging prostate. Can't get the feelings I want to get where I want to get to. Mind is just not in it and I'm sure that I've desensitized the area. I was going to try this days ago but kept on getting horny to where I felt I could pull it off. Nope...so I will give it a week break.

Can't beleive I'm approaching 30 days. I do want to orgasm so bad without ejac. I might try on Saturday. Who knows, maybe soon. Hopefully I succeed.

Day 27

Last night had my first...almost sexual dream. I went into this weird motel and this guy was convincing me to go into a room with one of his prostitutes. Yes. He was a pimp. So I go to the front desk and this Russian girl tells me what room to go in. And then I tell her it's not something I want to do and she goes on to tell me that the pimp is going to be angry. I told her I don't give an F and proceed out of motel. Pimp comes out and not happy. He walks past and bumps into me angrily. And dream ends. Wonder if I accepted the whore in my dream and didn't care about cheating on my wife that I would have WDd. The world may never know. Unless tonight or another leads to a different sex dream that I do accept.

So today my prostate area was more sensitive. Actually got to some good point where my heart raced. Like an andrenalin Rush. But no orgasm came and didn't think it was going to yet. But closer than the last few weeks.

Maybe asking wife to have sex last night and getting rejected, due to it being too late, got me dreams moving in right direction and pushed my body to be more sensitive since it didn't have an outlet.

Well that's the latest. Will see what tonight brings.

Day 1
Yes. That isn't misprint. Wife made me feel guilty that I haven't released in her and made it a big deal. So I felt guilted into doing so. I did try to hold the release upon orgasm but either didn't time it right or there was just so much build up that I couldn't do it. Lots of days wasted.

What I do know is anytime I have broke my abstaining the next day or two is hard as hell no MB or release. For some reason you are much Hornier.

Anyone else experience that?

Man. Feel like so many lost days of being filled up.