Wet Dream Forum

Welcome back I read your logs and your mental strength is incredible. Your success gives me hope. It is very hard sometimes as you know but reading journals like yours keeps me positive. Congrats on your achievements

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Thanks, ATC777! It's words like these that keep me positive

I didn't sleep well at all yesterday night. After waking up in the middle of the night, I could not go back to sleep again for some reason. Maybe it was due to the arousal I was having, or maybe something else. I don't know.

And I'm having those damn blue balls again...this sucks! It's like a one-sided pain (mostly the right side) in my pelvic area. And it's not a good feeling at all

Where is that WD when you need it the most?

Welcome back! I also recently came back after a long stint off of the site. I only recently came back to AB'ing as well, day 4 here and all is going well! Prior to that, I was MB'ing about 1x per week, as opposed to being a daily or every other day type thing. It's definitely freeing to be at the point of not even wanting to just do it for the sake of doing it. My usual 1x per week was Saturday morning's, so as long as I can get past that this week, all should be fine!! Looking forward to hearing more about your journey as we go along.

Thanks, Matt923! Even though I had some time off the site, I came back and used to be around here. It's just that it took a while for me to restart my log.

As you said, it's a very liberating and refreshing feeling not to be hooked on to MB. And WD's add more value to the whole process. Yes, this is surely a journey and I wish you good luck in your own goals.

Welcome back! I love that everyone is randomly coming back after time away! Is there any sort of indication for you the day before/evening leading up to your WDs? The one I had (my only so far) was so random!

Wet Dream!!

Phew! It was a long wait this time, almost 7 weeks. Ah! What a relief.

I just woke up feeling wet this morning. The load was a fairly good amount (as it should be after this long!) as some of it came on to my pants as well. I recalled feeling the ejaculation but did not wake up during it as I normally do. No recall of any dream, however. But, who cares? I had a release!

Oh, and thanks, swimmerboi! The answer to your question, is a definite no! Haha, absolutely no indication. WD's have beaten me in terms of that!!

Congrats, I think all of us are happy when we hear someone having a WD but also a little jealous at the same time. Glad to hear you had your release.

This WD was my 5th in this AB run, and 12th since turning 23. It is amazing how it came up after 5 days of restarting my log!

Something has definitely clicked on restarting my log; another Wet Dream!!

It happened at around the same time in the morning as the previous one, but was light and less intense. The ejaculate wasn't much. But hey, I had this just 3 days after the last WD! Moreover, I did have a sexual dream this time and woke up while ejaculating. Considering these aspects, this WD was more typical of my usual WD's.

well done for getting two wet dreams in just 3 days! That is so cool. Keep it up because you are now in 'wet dream mode' and you can let your body and mind eventually forget about the desires to masturbate.

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Last time I masturbated= 12/4/15
Days without masturbating=12

BTW, how long have you been ABs now?

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Last time I masturbated= 12/4/15
Days without masturbating=12

Wow- that's great! Anxiously awaiting mine- it's been 8 days of AB so we'll see what the week brings, if anything at all, lol.

To answer your question, I haven't MB'ed for 4 months now. But I don't think I prefer to use the term AB anymore, and I don't even count every day now. WDing more and MBing less have become a way of life for me. So I'm not really 'abstaining'. MB is not worth it. I'm just enjoying and letting it be (other than occasional blue balls, of course, but even that can be avoided if I'm really careful!).

Yeah stay positive and hold on there. You never know what might happen!

So true. And I appreciate your outlook on MB'ing less and WD'ing more, rather than AB at this point. Definitely something I would like to aspire to!

So I had another WD 2 days ago from an afternoon nap. It wasn't much and not that great. Moreover, I had no dried underwear for change (everything was soaked from washing and now the one I had on was soaked with semen lol). So I had to actually go and buy a new pair! These are some of the annoying aspects that WD's can bring sometimes. Anyway this one came just 4 days after the previous one. That's the bottom line here.

Though inconvenient at times, WD's are mostly nice to have. In fact, even the average or not so good ones can sometimes make you feel better. The most amazing fact is that I never get tired or drained out from them, even when they occur too frequently.

Seriously, the energy and masculine feelings I'm experiencing currently is wonderful and keeps motivating me to go on and have more WD's as long as I'm single.

Congrats on your success and self discipline!

For those occassions when you have blue balls and feel that you simply must masturbate to ease the pressure, I offer the following:

Consider prostate massage or prostate milking as an alternative to masturbation in order to release seminal fluid without a traditional orgasm and, if you are lucky, without a sustained erection.

If you simply have to do masturbation to ease the pressure, no porn [shower is a very good place!] and either no fantasies or very, very tame ones. From my past experience, when there was a massive build-up I didn't need to think of anything sexual, just empty thoughts of puming out a load.

Phil

I think I just had another WD today. I wasn't sure, because after getting up in the morning and while getting ready for a bath, I noticed a wet patch/stain on my underwear. It wasn't much, but was definitely indicative of a WD. Considering the volume, it sure looked like semen, even though the smell wasn't that strong. It's funny because I didn't even feel the wetness before I actually saw the mess. Probably, it happened at some time in the middle of night, long before I woke up. I must have been in deep sleep, so didn't feel it.

Another Wet Dream! (previous one: 9 days ago)

Had a WD again the other day. Very similar to the previous one, waking up and finding a wet patch, with no recollection whatsoever of the ejaculation or any dream. In fact, I seem to be having these types of WD's more often now. I wonder if it is common to have lot of 'less intense, dreamless' emissions when your WD frequency on the overall has increased.

It looks like your method seems to work, not AB but just not MB every day. Do you think it takes the stress down or pressure from ab? Because the stress of ab could result in no wetdreams at all.

Yes, seeing AB as something like "do-or-die" and "resisting" MB can sometimes lead to too much stress/pressure. However, my stress levels have never affected my wet dreams. So the speculation that pressure from AB may hinder WD's is not always true. That's a point to note!

Moreover, I have now taken my journey to the next level and have even gotten beyond "just not MB every day"; I can now go much more than that. In fact, it's been months since I last MB'ed and I don't really feel the need to nowadays. I think I am slowly approaching the "full-time WD'er" mode. What helped me in getting here was the change in attitude towards MB- seeing it as something undesirable or uninteresting instead of merely avoiding it.

Congratulations on your progress!
I think developing a negative attitude about MB and enjoying the positive effects of AB (including the WDs, of course) not only makes AB easier, it makes your brain more easily move to WDs as its outlet.

It makes a lot of sense that full time WDers don't miss or crave MB, and that they find that sexuality is better expressed and enjoyed without the MB habit and its negative effects. Besides, isn't having intense orgasms in WDs a lot more 'masculine' and 'grown up' than being a constant jerk off endlessly experiencing post-MB letdowns?

Thanks Texanguy!



It sure is. I love the 'new' me in this aspect!

I haven't updated but I've had more than a couple of WD's during the past 4 weeks. Two of them were quite intense and I woke up while ejaculating (and one of them came while I was asleep in a train lol!) Another one I didn't feel at all as I woke up finding my underwear wet. And I may have had a 4th one as again I didn't feel it, nor could I make out any wetness but it surely smelled of semen. Wow, it seems I am having more WD's without me even realizing it. It's been about 6 months without MBing and my body has now found a new way to release regularly!

Congratulations on achieving full time wet dreamer mode!

You've already mentioned a "change in attitude towards MB- seeing it as something undesirable or uninteresting instead of merely avoiding it." Can you add anything more as advice for aspiring full time WDers?

Some 'practical' questions for a full time WDer:
-Do you do anything to help bring on the next WD?
-Do you go to sleep at night looking forward to your next WD, or just not think about it?
-Do you get erect at night while going to sleep? How often do you wake up with 'morning wood'?
-During the day after a good WD, do you think back about how good it was, or look forward more to the next one?
-Immediately after MB, most guys lose interest in it for a while. When waking up after a good WD, do you immediately look forward to having another one?
-Can you be 'horny for a WD' while being totally turned off by the thought of MB?
-Is you attitude about MB still changing? How would you describe your current thoughts and feelings about MB? Do you ever fight off a desire to MB, or is any desire to MB completely gone?

Thanks for any replies you might give.

Thank you for the encouragement, Texanguy! However I don't think I have fully got into wet dreamer mode yet. There is still scope for more improvement such as having more evolved dreams, for instance. And I believe I haven't reached the 'zero MB' mode either, even though I'm fast approaching it. But don't get me wrong. It does not mean that I'm still hooked on to MB. My attitude towards it has definitely changed, but what I'm talking about are occasional situations like blue balls and such where I might go for the odd MB. Still, I can confidently say that the need for MB might soon disappear completely! All I need would need another 6-8 months or so to see where I'm going.

In addition, I would like to share a few tips for those who are struggling with MB. These certainly helped me in the initial stages to cut down on MB and eventually achieve WD's. Here's what I did:

1. I changed my attitude towards MB. I began to view it as a meaningless and boring thing to do, and convinced myself that it's not really worth it.

2. I decided that even if I MB'ed, I would continue to AB again from the next day. This was very important as I made myself realize that I shouldn't feel upset by having one off day, compared to the weeks of success I had prior to it.

3. Instead of trying to go cold turkey on MB, I made some rules for myself like:
a) I can't MB if it hasn't been at least a week since I had any form of release.
b) I will MB only in the shower.
c) I can MB only on 2 days of the week (which I chose), etc.
So I could MB only when all of these conditions (and the list is not exhaustive, they are just some of the important ones) were met and with the help of WD's, this helped me in reducing MB greatly.

These were just some of the methods I employed but you can customize to what suits you and even make your own rules. Go ahead, it might be worth a try!

Thanks the replies! If not in full time WDer mode yet, you seem very close. A lot of it is attitude, and you don't seem far from simply not liking MB and its effects anymore and enjoying your WDs. I think the ideal is to have frequent, exciting WDs while being totally turned off by MB.

Before this site changed hands and lost a lot of its history, a guy came here (shadow-15) who never had a WD before and who eventually started having 4-5 WDs per week and sometimes two in one night. Just recently, two other guys came here, kingpoopa and WDin2014, and seemed to make successful transitions to full time WDers before they stopped posting. (It's not clear if the last two stopped posting because they went back to MB or just moved on.)

Shadow-15 had a recommendation on how to help get more WDs. He said he would visualize having sex before going to sleep at night. By that time, he had already developed quite a negative attitude about MB and was already getting some WDs, and had said he didn't even like to think back to when he used to MB. So he was able to visualize having sex while having no desire to MB. He also said that his WDs were getting more intense and longer lasting with time, and even that more semen was being ejaculated than with MB. He was 15 at the time, and came back to the site a few times to report that he was still having and enjoying his WDs.

The other two guys were older. While they were all individuals, they did have some things in common in their journeys from MBers to WDers. In their own ways, all three developed negative attitudes about MB while having and enjoying their WDs. All three started sleeping nude, and didn't seem inclined to ever stop. The last two also reported being more comfortable with their bodies, such as more inclined to go shirtless in public. Kingpoopa also reported some good results from imagining having sex before going to sleep.

You can read kingpoopa's and WDin2014's logs on this site if you are so inclined. There are some interesting thoughts and observations in them.

Good luck in soon achieving full time frequent wet dreamer mode!