WD with another in the bed

[LuvsCurvy]

Those who read my posts may know that I tend to fluctuate around on my goals for AB from time to time. The reason for this is because I am married, and as such, share a bed with my wife. I won't go into details but we are currently in very much a rebuilding phase with regard to our intimacy at the moment. I am trialling the use of AB as a tool to help me in a few regards, and from how I felt yesterday I am adamant that ABing is absolutely the right thing for me to do at this point in time.

However, I do have two hesitations about WDs. First is whether or not I will moan/thrash about in bed etc. Second is the load and where it will go. I know many have suggested briefs (which I sleep with every night) but having seen one of the videos where the guy's load is literally spurting out from the briefs and onto the sheets, I'm becoming concerned that briefs may have only a superficial effect if my WD loads will be large.

Obviously, if we are not having sex and I'm not MBing then it's to be reasonably expected that my body will need an outlet, and that this will be subconsciously through WDs. But let's be honest, there is something rather embarrassing about WDs and, no matter how well you know the person, it's never nice when you are aware that others know you're having them.

I've already put a suggestion on the AMP forum for more people to produce audio recordings of their sleep to hopefully begin to answer the moaning question, but what do others think about the WD protection? I've seen an earlier thread where some suggested putting a sock over their penis. This would work for me as I we briefs. I trialled it last night and when I woke up, it was still in place. Whether it would be effective during an ejaculation is another story. I should also add that condoms aren't really an option because wearing latex for long periods makes my skin red, and because I'm restored I normally sleep with my foreskin over the head. As I harden, I'd likely break a condom.

As I get further into my ABing and grow to realise that I may actually have the willpower for a serious spell of it, the prospect of a WD becomes more real. After watching that video yesterday (sorry, I forget whose it was) it got me feeling really uneasy, and that helped my mind to try and rationalise MB to eliminate the 'risk' of a WD. Fortunately, I didn't MB.

[AGT]

I am not sure whether we actually moan whilst having a wd. There is the consensus that the body is "frozen" whilst having a dream, and therefore there should be little movement during a WD. All the video evidence shows, that whilst there may be a small thrusting movement during the actual orgasm, this is such a small movement, that it can hardly be referred as "thrusting".

The sock over the penis could be a workable idea, as could the wearing of a looser pair of boxers over your briefs as additional protection.

Explaining to your wife that WD's are a natural part of life, could also be a part of an overall solution.

[LuvsCurvy]

Those are all good points. I guess if nothing else, the fact I'm having them would help to prove to her that I'm not making it up when I talk about making some drastic changes to make myself a better person

[Squatch]

When I was in school a friend of mine was doing this. One day he sat down on a bench between classes, and he must have nodded off because the next thing he knew he had a massive WD. He said a couple guys were looking at him and laughing and going "ahhhh! ahhhh!", so apparently he did in fact vocalize during his WD. It's possible his sleep wasn't as deep due to the circumstances I guess, but it's certainly possible.

I'm not sure why it would be such a problem - it's a natural occurrance and, as far as many people understand it, completely beyond a male's control. If your wife can't accept that, then I can understand why you might be having some problems, and my friend, the problems aren't due to you.