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[JeanValjean]

Hey guys! first of all I'd like to say thanks to the admin. for letting me in the forum.

I'm here because I've been MB during my whole life and I definitely want to quit. I know you've written a lot on the topic here but since you guys have more exp. I would like to ask for general advices or starting points that you might find the most efficient ways to start with the right foot!

[Viktor]

I've only been without for 15 days, but the greatest bit of advice I can give you is you need a good reason to want to stop. Masturbation is healthy, and I did it once a day for 15 years before this which I don't believe to be too much.

Anyhow the reason I quit was simply because I wanted to experience a wet dream in my life, and I also wanted to test my will power to see how hard I can push myself. I also had a contest with someone else but they are out already and I am continuing.

So for me my motivation was that I am looking forward to having a wet dream (I love going to sleep now it's kind of exciting), I wanted to test my willpower, and I didn't want to fail in a contest.

Anyhow the first 9 days I felt physically ill at parts of the day, and the stress was so bad that I thought I might get an ulcer. It gets easier though, I mean it's still hard at this point but no where near as a bad as it was in the first 9.

Bottom line: If you aren't motivated and focused then you will have a higher chance of failure.

One thing I learned though: Do a hands off approach, don't play with yourself at all. If you feel like doing it then just don't ever take the first step of taking off your clothes. I almost failed on my 3rd day because I didn't have this approach, I thought I could stop but frankly I almost lost it. Then it hurt physically for an hour after that mistake (Blue balls). Anyhow just some advice from my experience... hand off approach for the win.

[Eleazar]

Welcome to WDF!

I agree with Viktor. You have to have a real good reason to stop MB'ing and be willing to exercise a whole lot of self-control. I believe that MB is unhealthy and wanted to stop for religious reasons as well as the mere fact that I did not want to be an MB'er. Period.

I have certainly had a few very close calls to breaking my AB. So when things get really rough I take off all my clothes so that nothing presses against my sensitive dick. This practice has seen me through many a night of horniness.

One thing I also realised is the need to take it one day at a time. If you edged yesterday, it happened yesterday. Don't carry the gunk over to today and see tomorrow as another opportunity to AB, if you fail. Also by taking it one day at a time you are forced to concentrate your efforts to abstain in the "here and now" only.

Another thing I do is keep track of my AB days. You might've seen that we differ on this point on here. Some believe that keeping track helps them to AB while others feel more stressed when they keep track. I am with the first group. I find it very encouraging when I cross out a day on my calendar and note the days since my last MB session.

With regards to resolve you have to realise that there will be some very tough and hair raising moments. Having the support of others to help you through it is priceless. That is where this forum comes in. I have not been able to make it beyond 7 days until I came across WDF and befriended some of the members here.

Keeping a journal of your experiences also helps. If you check out my journal you will see that initially I posted almost every day or every other day. But, as time went by I started posting less and less. Because I began walking.

With regards to perspective, I do not see myself as being MB free as some of my friends on here think that I am. I still see myself as some in recovery from MB addiction and still have a "one day at a time" mentality. My faith in God also contributes to my perspective and approach to horniness.

Those are just a couple of the stuff I learned along the way. There are more things which I will leave to the other members to say.

[Viktor]

Lol ya I have an app on my Ipod Touch for quitting smoking. It's basically a timer and you put in a date and time (of your last smoke) and it keeps track of how long you haven't smoked. I set in the last time I masturbated, so I have a day/hour/minute timer that keeps track for me. It's pretty nifty hahahahah not exactly needed but why not?

Currently:

15 days 19 hours 56 minutes


Hahaha brings a whole new meaning to "There's an app for that"

The app was free and it's called.... "QuitIt" but there are a lot of apps for quitting smoking on the store, i just grabbed one that was free for this purpose.

[JeanValjean]

I've only been without for 15 days

Way to go! Now I have a model to follow!

but the greatest bit of advice I can give you is you need a good reason to want to stop.

Well, basically I want to quit for pretty much the same reasons you have. I would rather add one more reason: there's a theory saying men can become multi-orgasmic and abstinence is somewhat related to the principles backing the development of this ability; and well, I want to figure out whether this is true or false. Btw, does anyone here knows something about this topic?

Thank you Viktor!

[JeanValjean]

One thing I also realised is the need to take it one day at a time. If you edged yesterday, it happened yesterday. Don't carry the gunk over to today and see tomorrow as another opportunity to AB, if you fail. Also by taking it one day at a time you are forced to concentrate your efforts to abstain in the "here and now" only.

Thanks! the biggest issue I've faced until this moment is the night. This is definitely the hardest point in the day, specially after 2-3 days of AB. Sometimes I can barely sleep! have you done something special to overcome a situation like this?

Greets!

[JeanValjean]

Lol ya I have an app on my Ipod Touch for quitting smoking. It's basically a timer and you put in a date and time (of your last smoke) and it keeps track of how long you haven't smoked. I set in the last time I masturbated, so I have a day/hour/minute timer that keeps track for me. It's pretty nifty hahahahah not exactly needed but why not?

Currently:

15 days 19 hours 56 minutes


Hahaha brings a whole new meaning to "There's an app for that"

The app was free and it's called.... "QuitIt" but there are a lot of apps for quitting smoking on the store, i just grabbed one that was free for this purpose.

Gotta give it a try, sounds great! lol

[Eleazar]

You bet I faced the same thing, bro. I just had to decide what was more important to me AB or sleep. I was willing to sacrfice my sleep just so that I did not have to face the letdown that accompanies MB. There were many nights at the beginning when I just couldn't lay on the bed to sleep or on my stomach. Sometimes I would wake up in the middle of the night sleepjerking. Those are the times I prayed, removed my clothes (the friction of my supersensitive penis rubbing against my clothes as it throbbed just did it for me), made some herbal tea and waited until I had calmed down. I would stand looking out of my rooms window naked or half-naked until I calmed down or I couldn't keep my eyes open anymore. That is how badly I didn't want to mb.

The nudity thing worked for me because I had developed a way in which I mb'd hands free with only my clothes. I could literally do it in my sleep. So removing the clothes were my best option because there could be no more "accidents". If I mb'd and came accidentally it would be because I consciously decided to MB.

There were a few times where I had it so bad that I couldn't sit on my bed. The mere act of sitting on my bed tantalised me. So I just stood and drank my tea.

In those moments I thought about having to come on here and tell the guys that I'd failed again. I just couldn't bear to disappoint them and disappoint myself again.

I also knew that the horniness would not last long; that my self-control would increase with time and that each bout that I got through would make me incrementally stronger. So I waited for the storm to pass.

Another thing I did was to keep to my sleep schedule going to bed and getting up at the same time each day. I seldom slept during the day. The only times I took an afternoon nap was when I couldn't function properly anymore.

The key is to never give up and to do what you have to do in order to succeed.

You can check out Homenudey's journal. If you read his experiences you virtually read mine.

[Shay]

I would say just try to keep yourself busy whenever you feel the urge - get up and get away from your computer! Go call a friend or watch something on TV - just don't be in a room by yourself! Night-time can be tougher though... yeah it often takes me longer to get to sleep - I'm not sure what to say other than "hands off" is definitely the best policy! Good luck!

[mikey1911]

The nudity thing worked for me because I had developed a way in which I mb'd hands free with only my clothes. I could literally do it in my sleep. So removing the clothes were my best option because there could be no more "accidents". If I mb'd and came accidentally it would be because I consciously decided to MB.

I realize you're talking about this while you're awake but if you had a hands free ejac in your sleep wouldn't that be a wd? I feel like it would.. If there's no hands involved it's fair game right? I don't see a problem with that

[Eleazar]

The nudity thing worked for me because I had developed a way in which I mb'd hands free with only my clothes. I could literally do it in my sleep. So removing the clothes were my best option because there could be no more "accidents". If I mb'd and came accidentally it would be because I consciously decided to MB.

I realize you're talking about this while you're awake but if you had a hands free ejac in your sleep wouldn't that be a wd? I feel like it would.. If there's no hands involved it's fair game right? I don't see a problem with that

Neither have I, Mikey. There's really no way of knowing unless your sentient bed partner is awake to see whether your ejac is a result of WD or SJ.