How do you deal with spontaneous ejaculations?

[kimba]

Can anybody who has spontaneous ejaculations tell me how they deal with them? After I finished urinating this morning I felt a tingling sensation in my penis and then semen starting dribbling out. I tried to stop it by tensing my PC muscle but that made it worse as when I stopped tensing, it started to flow out. The experience totally freaked me out and I called in sick to work today because I can't have that happen in the workplace. I went to Walmart and got some briefs underwear -may help contain it if it does happen. At least it won't run down my leg as I believe it would if I wear boxers. I also looked at depends/adult diapers, but decided that I would really rather NOT wear those. Does anyone have any practical advise on how to avoid SE's, reduce the likelihood that they will occur or offer advice on how to deal with them if they do happen?
I tried to search the forums, but got an error stating that both "Spontaneous Ejaculation" and "SE" were ignored as they were to common of words.

Thanks

kimba

[SuckerPunch]

How long have you been abstaining?

That would suck! I would have called in too. I seriously would dry a condom out and slap that on there. If its dry it shouldn't get irritated. Course I would rather be uncomfy then wear diapers or jizz all over myself at work.

[kimba]

How long have you been abstaining?

Today is day 15.

[activa]

It's nothing to worry about Kimba, SEs do happen from time to time and I agree, it's quite a shock when it does. To see and feel an ejaculation when soft is quite bizarre really and they always seem to come out of the blue and at inappropriate times. I've had one very memorable one when I was just about to jump into a swimming pool. Felt the tingles and next thing, an SE. Luckily it was a private pool and I could pull down my shorts and witness the happening...

They're comparatively rare and I don't think you have any worries about another any time soon, certainly not at work. If your work is anything like mine there'll be nothing remotely sexy about it and your mind will be filled with work things to the exclusion of all else...

No need for diapers that's for sure! About the only use diapers might have is as an anti-MB device - no way you can MB whilst wearing one I would have thought...

In your case it's likely the SE came about through prostate stimulation during urination. Your bladder might have put some pressure on it if it was very full and as you voided the contracting bladder did the deed for you by rubbing on your prostate. I believe some have experienced an SE whilst defecating due to the same thing. Pressure from a full bladder plus perhaps a larger than normal prostate from 15 days of AB might just have been enough of a trigger...

If they keep happening then a visit to the doc might be in order to have your prostate checked, especially if you have any other pointers to prostate problems like frequent urination or having to get up in the night rather more than usual for a pee...

What did you put on your sick note by way of explanation for your day off?

[InterestedGirl]

I guess I'm lucky being female that when I had a spontaneous orgasm mess wasn't an issue (well, it wouldn't have been anyway, as I was in the bathtub, just stepping in actually, rather a coincidence I think when I read activa's post, "something in the water" perhaps? lol). I do have my own problem of this nature when ABing, though, after the 1st week I start having so much liquid discharge I look as if I've peed myself, randomly for no good reason, but a pad takes care of that. If I had another spontaneous orgasm I'd mainly worry about falling if I was standing cause my body jerks when I come, or making noise and embarrassing myself (I'm good at coming quietly when I MB, but if it happened all of a sudden something might escape my mouth before I could stop it). As for peeing orgasms, I get those too, but they're only like 3-5 secs long and I don't feel any sense of release or relief from them, so I tend not to count them as true orgasms.

[kimba]

How long have you been abstaining?

That would suck! I would have called in too. I seriously would dry a condom out and slap that on there. If its dry it shouldn't get irritated. Course I would rather be uncomfy then wear diapers or jizz all over myself at work.

Yesterday was day 15. Thanks for the suggestion. I tried that today. The condom kept slipping off due to precum leakage. I tried holding it in place with a rubber band but it was way to uncomfortable. After a couple of hours I just took the condom off and decided to risk a public SE. I was worried that the condom would slip off and slide down my pant leg or something and I don't know how in the hell I could have explained to a coworker why a partially unrolled condom which was covered in precum fell out of my pants. I'd have been so embarrassed that I would probably have to look for a new job. Thanks for the encouragement. I had time to read a lot of posts on this forum yesterday and also a lot of journal entries. I realize now that a lot of the things that I was concerned about are fairly common and that many other people are going through the same physical/mental discomfort I am in regards to ABing. I appreciate all who post as I am inspired by many of the posters and learn from them as well.

kimba

[Zach]

i have only had 2 SEs. They are not to common for me but unfortunately both occurred while i was in class at school. The first time i snuck out the back of the school grounds and walked home and changed my boxers and pants. The second time it was the last class of the day and i simply waited for everyone to leave class and then i walked home the back way through the canyon so i wouldnt meet up with anyone on the way. In both cases it was quite messy and ran down my leg almost to my knee. I honestly dont worry about it and just deal with it. I guess if i had a job i would just go to the bathroom and clean up as best as possible when it happened. In school i dont have the option as most teachers will not let you out to use the bathroom unless its an emergency. I guess an SE could be classified an emergency, but im not about to stand up in class and say teacher i just jizzed my pants, can i go to the bathroom, haha. Its really not that big a problem, precum is a problem but i deal with that too.

[Overload]

Thanks God I haven't met with SEs. It must be a very difficult situation.
Maybe it's something psychological. If you worry about it, it happens. I'm saying,'cause I never had one and never heard about it before. Now I've got something to worry about!

[blue_crystal_s]

I totally understand as I get SEs so often, and they occur after ABing so when I get an SE I release a very big load and end up soaking my pants completely. It can be very embarrassing when you're out and I often keep a spare set of undies and pants so I can change as soon as it happens . The easy fix is to MB everyday but for guys like us who don't want to and prefer to AB, it's very hard. I've tried wearing condoms but often they slip off when your penis is soft so not so effective. You can try different types of undies or wearing more than one so they can soak up more semen without showing, but it doesn't work for me if I have been ABing for long as the volume is more than they can handle. When I wear shorts I try to wear loose boxers on with them so when I get an SE it can just drip down to the ground and not soak into my clothes, which works fine as long as you're home or no one's looking at you . Otherwise I often find myself rushing to the toilet before it starts squirting but sometimes there's no warning and other times it's not possible to get there in time.

[Soxa]

It does sound to be more of a social anxiety issue than a common problem. If leakage really is so conspicuous then there are lots of products formulated for women which would be invisible and highly absorbant, if tissues are inadequate. Tampons are strictly an S&M option.

But, seriously, think of the number of times you get drenched by a badly-adjusted tap or find a trace of urine left in the groin region. Embarrassing situations are quite easily avoided by carrying a file or something. I once gave a presentation that way. Just tap-water but rather a lot of it!

Or you could go the full-on macho route and point out the damp patch to everyone in the bar as a sign of your 'slow-dance' virilty. I have been in way too many sleazy clubs!

[First FTM dreamer]

Hey, that's like me being on my period and not wearing a pad! Now that would be something, except unlike you guys I would have to deal with a big RED spot on my pants! One time, I got really horny on my period and I guess that caused a sudden sploosh of blood to come out all at once and my pants got totally soaked. Good thing I'm not dysphoric about my body, or else I would have totally been freaking out. Also fortunately for me I was in my room when that happened. I get lucky a lot, because I've noticed it usually starts on a Friday or over the weekend, and only really lasts for about three days. So no worries about losing it at school. That or I could just wear a tampon, a pad, black pants, and a big sweater when the weather permits.

[leon9]

I have one question. What do you think people, does these premature ejaculation pills work? . I'd like to buy it...
Thank you in advance, and please please respond quickly.

[Alaric]

I have one question. What do you think people, does these premature ejaculation pills work? . I'd like to buy it...
Thank you in advance, and please please respond quickly.

I am going to go with no, I’d really ask a doctor about things like that.

[leon9]

Thanx, for your answer

I will ask... probably

[blue_crystal_s]

Is there a link between premature ejaculation and SEs? I seem to cum very easily and quickly and get frequent SEs too. But then I have to admit the head of my penis is extremely sensitive as it's usually fully covered with my foreskin and and hardly ever gets any stimulation. Even a gentle rub to wash it in the shower after retracting the skin is painful from extreme sensitivity. Has anyone else noticed this corelation?

[GreyBeard]

I have one question. What do you think people, does these premature ejaculation pills work? . I'd like to buy it...
Thank you in advance, and please please respond quickly.

I doubt it.

However SSRIs - aka Prozac Sertraline etc - do definately work and are routinely prescribed by doctors for the tratment of premature ejaculation. These can increse time to ejaculation by several times. Also used in the treatment of men suffering from large spontaneous preejaculations. Would likely cut down on WDs also .

[cutewetness]

Is there a link between premature ejaculation and SEs? I seem to cum very easily and quickly and get frequent SEs too. But then I have to admit the head of my penis is extremely sensitive as it's usually fully covered with my foreskin and and hardly ever gets any stimulation. Even a gentle rub to wash it in the shower after retracting the skin is painful from extreme sensitivity. Has anyone else noticed this corelation?

I have had this as well. This would happen to me I would say about two-three months a month, and it is interesting how sensitive how my penis can be to the touch. It wouldn't matter the kind of underwear or anything like that, it doesn't take that much for me to be have an SE. For me, it doesn't take much to stimulate it. I remember this one time, it was during the summer, and I was wearing shorts, and while I was walking outside, out of nowhere I had an SE. And you could clearly see it too, the wetness of the shorts, running down to just below my knees. I so surprised by it. So, I've learned to deal with it, and it's okay, it's natural. You're not alone on this.