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I had a good plan, but unfortunately strong urges to cum overcame the desire to continue abstaining. It felt great to blow the load, but now I'm back to day 1.

You can do it man. Wish you the best of luck with your quest. I have failed too many times but never giving up!

I haven't been trying to abstain for several months (MB every day), but I'm ready to try again. Today is day 5 and it's going OK so far. I had almost forgotten how it feels to be horny and full. So at this point I'm very horny and getting full... and it feels really good. T-buzz is also working. This morning I was lying in bed just letting the horny feelings wash over my body. Instead of fighting the feeling and thinking about how much I wanted to cum, I relaxed and enjoyed the experience. Having tried to ab a number of times before, I am convinced that the ONLY way to succeed is to embrace and enjoy the horny/full feeling. If I start to fight it and wish I could cum, it's all but over. So every time I start thinking about how horny and full I am, I must immediately add... "and it feels so good".

Day 6

Feeling moderately horny, but still good. Had a great workout this morning. The T-buzz really helps at the gym. It would feel good to cum, but for now it feels better not to cum.

I agree, abstaining can feel better than frequent MB, and knowing that can make abstaining even easier and more desirable. It also makes sense from a natural perspective that we are built to derive pleasure from abstaining. Wouldn't nature make being fertile more pleasurable than being constantly emptied through MB?

Our brains and bodies are built to handle going without frequent forced ejaculations, and in fact frequent MB can be seen as having negative effects. The t-buzz is real, Extra energy and better workouts are real (some body builders don't believe in MB for that reason). And of course better orgasms in WD's are real. Why would WD's even exist, and why would they be so pleasurable, if our brains/bodies weren't built to have them? Abstaining from MB can also allow arousal and horniness to be felt without always being tied to erections. That too would seem to be more natural.

We've recently found a couple of other things that appear to be effects of abstaining. One is the tendency to make more precum. Even guys who normally (if you call regular MB normal) don't make any precum can start making it when they abstain. The other is that guys seem to 'hang' a little longer when not erect when they abstain. This must be hormonal and related to blood flow, but nevertheless seems to be true.

Given all of that, it makes you wonder if it is a good idea to inhibit all of these things by frequent MB. At the very least, it seems more truly 'male' to allow these things to happen rather than inhibit them.

What's the best feeling a guy can have (without drugs or alcohol)?

#1 To cum and blow a huge load.
Result: Immediate gratification, then nothing.

#2 To have a huge load, lots of T-buzz, feel really horny and NOT cum.
Result: Prolonged good feeling with peaks and valleys. The feelings increase over time. The "high" can be increased by edging, having sexual contact with another person (but not ejaculating), and by sensual thoughts, dreams or images. The point is that the "high" is on-going rather than quick and over. Wet dreams may fit into this, but then I've never had a wet dream.

I'm now on Day 7 of plan #2, and it's working well... very horny, full load, T-buzzed, and feeling great!

There are some Eastern philosophies, such as Buddhism and some branches of Yoga, that believe that ejaculation is a waste of energy and is unhealthy, but see WD's as being natural and not having such negative effects. WD's definitely don't have the post-MB letdown that waking forced ejaculations do, and so can actually enhance #2 as you described it.

It seems that physical edging can inhibit WD's and other effects of mode #2, and may keep you close to or let you slip back to mode #1. Try eliminating edging and go for pure mode #2 effects without physical stimulation.

When you look at it the right way, MB is indeed a waste of time, energy, and good feelings.

Day 8
Thanks for the comments, Texanguy. I agree that edging puts you on a slippery slope to failure. So far I have avoided (physical) edging, but have found mental edging enjoyable. This morning I was lying in bed with very nice morning wood, enjoying the horny sensations. Several days ago the waves of sexual feelings were little ripples, but now they are big waves. It's so good to just lie still and ride the waves. I am really trying to focus on the good feeling of the waves of sexual energy, and not see them as "urges". To have an urge implies that you want to do something that that you shouldn't. If I see myself as deprived, then I will certainly fail.

I don't want to have such thoughts as "I really need to cum", or " I want to MB soooo bad". I need to think more like "It would be good to MB and cum, but even better not to". Right now I want to enjoy just what I'm feeling... it's perfect.

Day 10
Feeling horny, full, energetic, and very good.

well done slider...keep it up!

Day 11
If only the level of horniness could stay like it is right now... but I know some serious urges are in the near future. This morning I still feel very horny. The fullness is increasing, also. Overall it feels great to have this degree of sexual tension and energy. I have been tempted to edge because I know it would feel sooooo good, but we all know where that leads.

Several times in the past I have reached the 17 to 21 day mark, only to succumb to overwhelming urges to cum. I have asked myself what would have happened if I had just not given in. This time I'm going to try my best to be strong and not allow failure NO MATTER HOW EXTREME THE URGE. Maybe I'll even get a wet dream.

I may be skipping days of posting over the next 2 weeks due to lack of computer privacy, but I'll post when I can.

Day 13
Yesterday was OK, with only mild horniness. Today the feeling is much stronger, but still feels good.

Day 14

I've had no release of any kind since April 1, and at this point I think the volume of semen I can retain is at a max. A WD or SE would feel so good, if only to release some of the pressure. So what happens when you are completely full and there is no release? Does your body stop making semen? Or does it leak out a little at a time during urination? Can I go on indefinitely with a "full tank"? I hope that I will eventually adjust to and enjoy the completely full condition.

Yesterday I had about 2 hours when if I could have MB, I would have. At that time the desire was very strong and my will was weak. Fortunately there was no opportunity to MB, so I had to continue on.

This morning I'm very horny and full, but at this moment it still feels good. Tomorrow will be the start of week 3. And after tomorrow morning, I won't have any opportunity to MB for another 10 days.

The body can reabsorb the excess. You probably feel extra full because you are aroused so frequently, which leads to production of more semen fluids.

Don't slip up before you go on your trip. This is a perfect opportunity to keep abstaining. The full feeling may diminish if you keep busy and get less aroused, but the t-buzz and chance for WD's will remain. Good luck!

I haven't posted in awhile, and had been MBing almost every day up until Aug 13, when I started to AB again. I'm now on day 23 which is one day short of my longest time yet. This time I tried something different. Beginning on day 4 I MB'd every morning in the shower, but stopped just before the point of no return. So I haven't had a release since Aug 13. Somehow instead of making the AB more difficult it has been easier and much more enjoyable. The feeling of fullness and horniness is always there, but I haven't had any strong urges to cum... just pleasant waves of sexual tension.

Also changed is the way I edge. Normally I get a good fantasy in my head then while MBing tense most of my muscles and hold my breath (stronger orgasm). This time I have made it very mechanical. I count the strokes to divert my mind from fantasies. There is no muscle tensing or breath holding. When I feel I'm getting close, I slow down and gently massage my dick, then stop completely, and duck my head under the shower and wash my hair. By the time I do that, I'm feeling good all over. Then quickly exit the shower and get dressed.

One other change was in how I sleep. I wear size 28-30 briefs, but my waist size is 34. This holds everything in place better. Normally my dick is pushed directly down. This prevents embarrassing boners. At night I push it straight up toward the waist band, which allows for some amazing night and morning wood.

So how does daily edging help keep the AB going? Usually my failures are due to intolerable fullness and pressure. Could it be that by edging to near the point of no return that semen is passed into the ejaculatory ducts, but not ejaculated. Then some leaks out when I pee?? This might also explain why guys who constantly edge don't get wet dreams.

Day 24

This equals the longest I have ever gone without release. Today I feel more horny than yesterday. It's going to be tough to stay strong once I have set a new "personal best". On the other hand, if I can go 24 days, why not 25, 26, or more?

I fell of the ab wagon last September just after setting a new personal best. Now I'm going to give it another go. Since then I have MB'd almost every day. The goal this time is not to have a WD, but if it occurs that would be great. The goal is not to orgasm or ejaculate. In the past I have felt very good being horny and full... energized and almost euphoric from the T-buzz.

Today is day 6. This time I'm trying something a little different. Normally when I MB, I get a good fantasy in my head, and while focusing on the fantasy pump hard and fast until I cum. This time I'm going to avoid any fantasy and focus on how good it feels to gently stroke and massage using soap in the shower. To keep my mind off any fantasy, I will count the strokes. Again the focus is on how good each stroke feels. There is no rush to cum, because it's not going to happen. The last 2 days I did this form of edging and it worked well. At the beginning of the shower I felt tense, horny and full. At the end I felt T-buzzed and relaxed. The horny/full feeling gradually spread over my body and caused a sense of relaxation and well being.

The technique I use is this. Start with very warm water. Get completely soaped up and then begin to lightly touch my "erogenous" zones, excluding the genital area. Then do 10 double handed (one fist in front of the other) very slow strokes. Enjoy the feeling. Then I do 100 single handed more rapid strokes, counting each one. Focus entirely on how good it feels. There is no tensing of muscles or breath holding. Then take a brief break and do another 100 strokes. If I feel I'm getting close to cumming, I back off for a few seconds, then continue slowly or stop completely if I'm getting too close. The whole idea is to enjoy each and every stroke for the pleasurable feeling. That's the goal, not ejaculation. After 200 strokes, I quickly duck my head under the shower and wash my hair. Then exit the shower and get dressed. No other form of stimulation is permitted at other times... one episode per 24 hours. This gives me something to look forward to other than just abstaining.

I'm detailing this so when my will becomes weak in the days ahead, I can reread and refocus.

It's time for a shower now...

Sounds great! Gonna try that soon.

Keep going, and stay strong!

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Day 7

Moderately horny and full, but it feels good, especially the T-buzz. The limited shower stimulation seems to help reduce stress and tension. In a few minutes I'll get into the shower and have my daily pleasure time. Knowing that I can do this every day helps to get through the other times when I feel very horny and tempted to MB and cum. Going into the limited stimulation session I know the "rules" and can relax and enjoy the experience.

So far I'm feeling very positive about "abstaining".

Day 8

It feels so good to be horny and moderately full. In the last week I have increased by 10 lbs the weight on each workout machine at the gym. Lovin' the T-buzz and increased energy. My daily shower massage version of edging is working well and is very pleasurable. It's very different from "jerking off" but not getting off. One is like a fast drive down the interstate to get to a destination, and the other is going for a leisurely drive on the back roads with no destination in mind... just enjoy the ride.

While doing the shower massage I have to be very careful to stay focused in the moment (by counting the strokes), enjoy the feeling and not allow any fantasies to enter my mind.

Day 9
Very busy. Nothing to report.

Day 10
Felt T-buzz, but strangely no urge or desire to release.

Day 11 (Monday)
No release of any kind since Nov 30. I'm enjoying edging (or more like erotic massaging). So far I've edged the last 7 days, which is helping to avoid the feeling of total deprivation. Had an intense workout at the gym this morning, and now I'm feeling very horny and full. With each passing day the memory of ejaculation is fading, but the sense of T-buzz well-being is strong.

Day 12 (Tuesday)

The sexual tension increases each day. Today I'm very horny and thoughts of release have crept into my mind.... NOT! My goal now is something I have never done and that is to complete an entire calendar month without orgasm or ejaculation.

After a shower along with a good edging session, I should feel more confident.

Day 13 (Wed)

Yesterday afternoon there was a time when I thought I really need to cum. But after an hour or two the urge went away. This morning I had a very good workout at the gym, and feel increasingly horny as usual. I'm beginning to notice more times when I feel fullness and pressure. But overall the level of sexual tension is still a good feeling. Just how much semen can a guy hold without 1) exploding 2) giving up and MB 3) Learning to enjoy and live with the feeling?

My current goal is not to have a release for the month of December... 19 days to go.

Day 14 (Thursday)

The sexual tension gets stronger each day. Right now I'm extremely horny. It would feel so good to cum, but I'll settle for a good edging session in a few minutes. On each of the last 10 days I've edged close to the PNR. It seems I am learning to control things better and stop when I need to.

Keep up the great work.... I learned the edging thing too, but after about 2 days of edging, I get pretty painful blue balls. Now when I AB, I don't even start to edge. It was too painful.

Day 15 (Friday)

The urges of yesterday morning smoothed out after a good edging session... 200 strokes then stopped about 2 strokes before ejaculating. So this morning I am still very horny, but have less desire to cum. I think the reason I'm able to stop prior to ejaculation is that there is no fantasy (or porn i.e. visual fantasy) involved in the MB. By counting strokes my mind can't focus on a fantasy. The only purpose of stroking is to enjoy the pleasure at the moment. Another observation is that stroking goes two ways. One is the sensation in my dick and the other is the tactile sensation in my fingers while slowly massaging my dick.

The overall combination of horniness, fullness and T-buzz makes for an all day good feeling.

The increased energy and T-buzz have increased the intensity of my gym workouts. More reps and 10-15 lbs more weight on each machine.

Day 16 - Very horny in the AM. Stroked 213 times in the shower. Stopped just in time... Number 214 would have blown the load.

Day 17 - No urges. Only stroked 10 times in the shower. Felt good all day.

Day 18 (Monday) - Horniness and fullness have faded somewhat. T-buzz is the dominant feeling today. No urges this morning. Another strenuous workout at the gym a few minutes ago. Now for the good part... soapy shower and self massage (but no cumming!)

Day 19 (Tuesday)

My shower session yesterday was intense and enjoyable. I made it to 196 strokes. Another few and I would have blown it. By enjoying each and every stroke for what it is, and not having ejaculation as an end point, I have found it easy to stop when I need to. My level of horniness and fullness has been about the same for a few days. Hope it continues to remain stable because it feels good the way it is at this point.

Day 20 (Wednesday)

Yesterday's edging session was very intense. Barely made it to 200 strokes. It's a good thing I didn't do number 201 or it would have been over. My self control must be getting better because I've edged very close to the edge 16 days out of the last 20.

Last evening I was so horny and full that I made the decision to MB and release this morning. But when I got up this AM the urge had subsided. After a vigorous workout at the gym I feel back on track. So I'll continue as before... no release today, although I will do my usual shower edging close to the point of no return (PNR).

Day 21 (Thursday)

Yesterday was an excellent day. Did 216 soapy strokes in the shower, and found it easy to stop just in time. The rest of the day I felt very energized, but no urge to cum. Since ABing I have noticed that I don't procrastinate like I usually do.

At this moment I feel a warm sense of horniness and well being. Looking forward to the morning shower session. There seems to be a paradox: It takes a long time (if ever) to get a WD while ABing and edging. But I find it impossible to AB for a long time without edging... If I keep going long enough maybe it will happen.