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It's nice reading your journal! 43 is a long time! I have just started my first try and see how far I get. If I get 43 I would be a happy camper

Good luck and stay strong! You can get there

Day 20 (Wednesday)

Thanks for reading, darkname48.

It's going well, but I notice that the horny and full feelings have a sharper edge than before. The best place is where I can notice and enjoy the sexual tension when I want to, or ignore it when I'm doing something else.

I need to reduce the number of soapy strokes in the shower from 50 to 35 or 40. Yesterday by #40 I was getting too close to the edge. By the time I stopped at 50 it would have taken maybe 3 or 4 more strokes and BOOM, it would have been over... too close!

Just for today, I will not cum.

do you get precum when milking in the shower?
because that is what i used to do the previous time i tried AB and i was edging for hours as i usually do, only i wasnt cumming. but i would leak too much precum and take the pressure down and eventually nothing happened and i finished my AB shamefully...

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NOT ABing
longest AB 47 days
TOTAL WDs 0
TOTAL Dry Dreams dozens (as good as the real deal)
TOTAL SEs 4

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DATE OF LAST ORGASM: MAR 19, 2014
DAYS SINCE LAST MB: 10 days
WD: Current 0, Lifetime Around 100
SE: Current 0, Lifetime 1
LONGEST STREAK OF AB FROM MB: 30 DAYS
LONGEST STREAK OF AB FROM ORGASM: 40 DAYS
GOAL: AWAITING INSTRUCTION FROM MASTER

I was thinking the same. Im not sure if that is the case but I decided not to do any stroking or edging at all. Just way too affraid to not be able to stop or blow it too fast. Just washing it but not more then needed and using a really not stimulating approach for as far as that is possible. Luckily I dont MB in the shower so my mind is not on that.

Day 21 (Thursday)

Thanks guys and gals for the comments. I reposted my "method" for the shower massage below. It's a reminder for me, also.

1. No touching or stroking except during the morning shower. If I take another shower in the evening, it's a quick wash and exit the shower.
2. Wash completely except for face and hair.
3. Start touching erogenous areas (for me it's pecs, nipples, abs and upper arms).
4. Soap up really good and start SLOW stroking of my penis, counting each stroke. It's important to focus on counting, and not start a fantasy in my head. The idea is to enjoy each stroke for the pleasure it provides, and nothing else.
5. No muscle tensing, breath holding or fast stroking. The goal is pleasure, not orgasm or ejaculation. You should never even get close to the "edge".
6. I only get 50 strokes. 50 is right for me because by about #20 I have a steel erection, and by 50 I am extremely turned on, but not about to cum. Others may choose a different number, but stick with it... adding extra strokes is not allowed.
7. If I seem to be progressing too fast, I slow down or take a 5-10 second break. I usually stop at 45, 47 and 49. Then enjoy the last looong double handed stroke.
8. Immediately after #50, duck my head under the shower and wash my face and hair.
9. Finish rinsing, get out, dry off and get dressed.
10. If I start feeling horny, full or want to cum during the day, I remind myself that tomorrow morning I will have another very pleasant "massage".

The key elements for me are no muscle tensing or fantasy (counting distracts me from fantasy), go slow with lots of soap, and focus on the physical pleasure each stroke gives. Enjoy in the moment. There is no end goal (ejaculation).

As for precum, I squeeze it out after I exit the shower, so I don't start the day with wet underwear.

Yesterday I decreased the number of strokes to 40 (decided before starting). If I just count without a set limit in advance, I'll be tempted to go too close to the edge. Also, as I approach the set limit I like to stop for a few seconds before finishing and savor each stroke, especially the very last exquisite one.

Interesting........... I used to do something similar many, many years ago. Only in my morning shower. I too needed to count the strokes slowly, so I did not cum. I can't remember how many strokes - I think it was about 30 - 40, but not too sure.The reason why I did it (and liked it) was because if I was not already rock hard before starting, I would be rock hard by the time I stopped. What I really liked is that I would stay rock hard while dressing and having breakfast. It usually took at least half an hour to start going down and would be still semi hard for the next hour.
All the time I was hard, I would be experiencing a wonderful sensation - similar to the feeling I got when I was maybe about 8 or 9 strokes from cumming - only it was not as intense. There was a downside though - I produced a lot of precum while I was hard and still going down. Also my "bulge" was more noticeable while I was semi hard, but maybe that was a bit of a plus!!

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DATE OF LAST ORGASM: MAR 19, 2014
DAYS SINCE LAST MB: 10 days
WD: Current 0, Lifetime Around 100
SE: Current 0, Lifetime 1
LONGEST STREAK OF AB FROM MB: 30 DAYS
LONGEST STREAK OF AB FROM ORGASM: 40 DAYS
GOAL: AWAITING INSTRUCTION FROM MASTER

Day 22 (Friday)
WD 0
SE 0
MTO 0
MSO 16

Thanks for the comments...

Yesterday afternoon I was extremely horny and feeling full. That weak "why not" feeling started to come over me. But then I got interested in something else and the feeling passed. By last night I felt strong again without the previous urges.

I'm officially limiting the morning shower strokes to 40. I might not do any massages over the weekend to see how I feel on Monday.

I was looking over my self imposed rules for the massage, and saw that I neglected to put in a ban on porn. Porn (or even suggestive pics) is like pouring gasoline on a fantasy fire.

For today, I will not cum.

That's awesome! Stay strong man. I have the same feelings too and I will not cum today;)

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JOINED THE WD FORUM: Oct. 2013
LONGEST AB ATTEMPT: 23 days
DATE OF LAST EJACULATION:
Current challenge: --

Day 24 (Sunday)
Day 10 of the November challenge
WD 0
SE 0
MTO 0
MSO 18 (edging)

I have been feeling terrific this weekend... horny and full, but in a good way. Could this possibly be the way it's going to be over a long period of time? I hope it is. May not be able to post again until Tuesday (lack of computer privacy).

For today, I will not cum.

Day 25 (Monday)
Day 11 of the November challenge
WD 0
SE 0
MTO 0
MSO 19 (edging)

I knew this would happen, and it has. Suddenly the fullness has become extreme. My groin on both sides is painful, and I really need to cum. I'm at the point that I don't think I can hold it any longer. This is where I usually fail. But this time I'm going to try very hard to get through the extremely strong need and urge to cum. The difficult part is not doing something I desperately want to do.

So here goes... For today I am not going to cum.

hang in there! either you ruin it all or you maybe get a nice surprise soon. think of it that way :-)

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NOT ABing
longest AB 47 days
TOTAL WDs 0
TOTAL Dry Dreams dozens (as good as the real deal)
TOTAL SEs 4

Day 26 (Tuesday)
Day 12 of the November challenge
WD 0 SE 0 MTO 0 MSO 19 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

Yesterday I didn't think I was going to be able to continue, but managed to hold on.
This morning lying in bed, the waves of horniness were very intense. Also, the fullness and pressure were strong.

In order to successfully continue, I'm going to have to start enjoying the recently increased level of being horny, as well as the strong pressure of being full. I tried to relax and completely appreciate the waves of tension. Think about how full I feel. Then enjoy feeling this way. The hornier I am and the more urgent the fullness feels, the more energized I become... more intense workouts, no procrastination. In a strange sort of way I'm hoping for a very horny, full feeling day. A WD would be nice, but then I've never had one.

Doing the shower "massage" this morning might not be a good idea, but I really want to do it. Guess I'll do whatever feels right at the time.

So for today I pledge: I will not cum.

I think you can reach the point where you can feel the horniness even more without edging. Edging can also make uncomfortably full, instead of just full, and make you feel like you have to ejaculate simply in order to eliminate the discomfort. Also, you can reach the point where the 'edge' is too narrow. You'll cum even before it starts to feel good.

We've learned here that some guys get WDs a lot easier than other guys. But horniness and t-buzz without edging can help put you in WD territory. And a good WD can be much better than any edging.

Day 27 (Wednesday)
Day 13 of the November challenge
WD 0 SE 0 MTO 0 MSO 20 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

Thanks for the comments...

Yesterday went much better than the previous day. This morning I had an energetic workout at the gym. The groin pain is gone, and I'm back to feeling horny and full of energy (and cum), but no urges.

From my reading here it is apparent that edging hinders getting a WD, but I don't think I can AB from ejaculation without edging. Before I start my morning shower massage, I feel horny like I need to MB. But strangely I have had no problem stopping at the self imposed stroke limit, and when done, I feel very mellow and relaxed. In the past when I would MB (fast pumping, muscle tensing, breath holding and fantasizing), and then stop close to the edge, I would feel frustrated. It was also difficult to stop at that point. The way I'm doing it now gives great physical pleasure and a sense of well being without ejaculation or orgasm.

So for today, I will not cum.

Great journal! Enjoyed reading it! and the shower massage is really interesting.

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DATE OF LAST ORGASM: after MB 1 august 2013 (WD 25 nov)
DAYS SINCE LAST MB: 118
WD: Current around 8 in 4 months, life time a lot
SE: Current 1, Lifetime 2
LONGEST STREAK OF AB FROM MB: 1 year and 8 months
GOAL: LIFELONG

Day 28 (Thursday)
Day 14 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 21 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

I'm feeling really good now. The t-buzz is back, I'm horny and full. For me the t-buzz is like a drug. If I relax and think about being horny, a euphoric wave comes over me, which is similar to drinking about 1/2 of a beer on an empty stomach. The good feeling is both mental and physical. It comes and goes, and it's nice when it's there. Since I don't drink anymore, the t-buzz and horny feeling are a good substitute.

No urges in the last 2 days.

Pledge: I will not cum today.

Day 29 (Friday)
Day 15 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 22 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

I think I've built my confidence enough to get through the next huge wave of urges to cum. My old reaction was "I can't do this anymore. Enough is enough..." This time I'm going to relax, savor the strong urge, and enjoy riding the waves.

Which is better?
1. Jerking off every day for the last 29 days. Average 6 seconds per ejaculation or 2.9 minutes of extreme pleasure over the last month, but almost never having sexual feelings except for the short time it takes to jerk off.
or
2. Erotic, pleasurable daily shower massages (40 strokes). High level of sexual tension, energy and awareness, t-buzz, and fullness to remind me of my manliness. Plus a feeling of strength and willpower in maintaining this plan.

At this point I am very pleased with the way I feel using plan #2.

So for today I will not cum.

yup, plan No.2 seems much better. even tho after 33 days i am getting a boner even typing this reply, no matter, i am also sticking to plan 2! :-)

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NOT ABing
longest AB 47 days
TOTAL WDs 0
TOTAL Dry Dreams dozens (as good as the real deal)
TOTAL SEs 4

We are built to enjoy the feelings of #2. But for most people, the few seconds of pleasure from 40 or so strokes in the shower are risky, and can actually detract from the feelings you described for the other 23 hours and 59.5 minutes a day. Regular edging can also increase discomfort, lead to blue balls, and almost always finally results in an unwanted ejaculation or a need to go to completion to relieve the pressure and pain.

Try skipping a day or two, or even a week, and see how you feel. And if you can get a WD, it will feel better and more rewarding than any edging, and can enhance the other feelings afterwards.

Day 32 (Monday)
Day 18 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 25 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

Thanks for the comments and suggestions, guys.

The week-end went well.... horny when I would think about it, but in the background when I was busy doing something. I did have one "weak" feeling on day 30, but it passed and I'm OK now. It's that weak feeling (i.e. "I've gone this long , why not just do it?") that I must be careful about. Maybe quickly getting busy doing something distracting, or remembering that I've been here before and the feeling will pass. The weak feeling is different from a strong urge to cum. It's more a sense of questioning why and how much longer I can continue to ab.

Since things are going well, I'm going to continue with the morning massage at least until I pass my old record on day 43. After that I might try to skip some days. But for now I'm afraid that if I skip, I'll suddenly want to feel something and blow my ab.

For today, I will not cum.

Day 33 (Tuesday)
Day 19 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 26 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

I'm finding the hardest part of ab is feeling full and horny. but not having t-buzz. If I am "buzzed" all aspects of ab feel good: horny, full, need to cum, energetic, confident, and almost euphoric. But when t-buzz fades, the horny, full feeling becomes a burden. It seems the t-buzz was the best for the first 2 weeks, but since then it comes and goes... some days it's there, other times not so much. The two things that seem to help with t-buzz are edging and working out. Think I'll try to increase the intensity of my workouts. But it might work the opposite way: t-buzz causes me to work out harder.

Day 34 (Wednesday)
Day 20 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 27 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

I was very busy yesterday, so I didn't pay much attention to how I was feeling. But then last night the ache on both sides of my groin returned, meaning I'm extra full. It would feel so good to shoot an enormous load right now. However, it feels even better to keep holding it. Why is it so stimulating to know I'm totally full of semen, but instead of cumming, I continue to go through each day with a full load?

I pledge I will not cum today.

Day 35 (Thursday)
Day 21 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 28 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

I was thinking this morning, how have I been able to go nearly 5 weeks without release? I came up with these reasons:

1. I really want to do this. I might even get a WD.
2. I have followed my self-imposed rules exactly: no touching or stimulation except during the morning massage. Strictly adhere to the previously decided number of strokes. Never during the massage even think about cumming. It's all pleasure of the moment.
3. No porn. But that's not hard for me, because I don't look at porn anyway.
4. The sensuous morning shower massage has helped by giving me sexual stimulation every 24 hours, but without cumming.
5. I am gradually beginning to accept and enjoy being horny and full most of the time, with intermittent waves of urges.
6. As time passes I feel empowered by my willpower and control over how my body functions.
7. My overall sexuality has gone from boring (jacked off and drained) to exciting (fully loaded and ready).

The downside: I probably spend more time thinking about this than I should.
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For today, I pledge I will not cum.

Day 36 (Friday)
Day 22 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 29 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

Since I'm closing in on my longest ab (on day 43), I really need to stay focused and strong. By Dec 1, I will have beaten my old ab record, made it through the November challenge, and for the first time not ejaculated for an entire calendar month. The reason I'm writing the foregoing is so in the next ten days I can re-read this to help me stay the course.

After Dec 1, I need to decide whether to clear the pipes, or go for another month, until the end of the year. Maybe a WD will do the job.

Pledge: I will not cum today.

Day 39 (Monday)
Day 25 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 32 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

The week-end was busy and uneventful. I still have waves of horniness, but the overall feeling is good. The urge to ejaculate has diminished, even though the fullness is always present. At this moment I am in equilibrium with horniness, fullness, t-buzz, edging, not ejaculating, and an overall good feeling.

I pledge that today I will not cum.

Day 40 (Tuesday)
Day 26 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 33 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

I am gradually beginning to accept the full and horny feeling as the new normal. But I've got to be careful because in the past when I passed an old ab record, failure soon followed. My old record ended on day 43... maybe I should consider day 44 as a new day 1, even though it would be day 44??

Since "edging" (shower massage) on 33 days since the last ejaculation, I've begun to disconnect erotic stroking from orgasm and ejaculation. The overall pleasure of 40 slow, slippery strokes is greater than a fast pump and cum. It has surprised me how easy it is to stop at number 40, as ejaculation is neither the goal nor an option. And the best part is I'm left with a warm sexual feeling, rather than drained.

So for today, I pledge I will not cum.

Day 41 (Wednesday)
Day 27 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 34 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

The important difference between this ab and previous runs is that at this point I oddly don't have any desire to cum. I'm still horny and full, but it feels normal and good. Now if it will just stay that way...

I pledge I will not cum today.

Day 44 (Saturday)
Day 30 of the November challenge
WD 0... SE 0... MTO 0... MSO 37 (edging)
Last release of any kind Oct 18

OMG I am sooo horny today, and very full. I know if I stay strong it will fade, but right now it's difficult. I've been full for a long time but today the pressure is extreme, and the ache in my groin area has returned.

But for today I will not cum.