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Im 20 and i never went on a date. I feel like i am ai loser for not kissing a girl. I dont know why girls dont want me. I never drink or do drugs. Im an eagle scout and i respect everyone. But not having a girl bugs me alot.i also sometime cry myself to sleep because i feel like a loser. Thats why not mb is hard because seeing girls makes me want to mb. Why cant good guys get girls

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want a girlfrend

Dude, dont be so desperate to get a girl. That puts them off. Also did u ever approach a lady before? How did it go? Ab will give u the confidence to approach a girl, and u wl get 1 @ the right time.

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Beginning with the end in mind...
"porque siete veces podrá caer el justo, pero otras tantas se levantará; los malvados, en cambio, se hundirán en la desgracia." ~Proverbios

It’s not always all it’s cracked up to be so I wouldn’t be overly worried. Sometimes it just takes a while for that whole thing to work out, of course it is a two way street so part of it depends on you. Have you ever asked a girl out? Although there are girls out there who would ask a guy, i think culturally the status quo remains that it’s still the guy’s job. Don’t feel like a loser, just put yourself out there and who knows, anything can happen.

For what it’s worth I dated only one girl, and we never even kissed in the four years we dated, it was very platonic. I haven’t dated anyone since, tho she’s dated a few other guys, it doesn’t bother me really, there are other objectives one can pursue at our age, school, work, etc. I don’t think any sort of relationship will be on my radar for a very long time, and as selfish as that may sound, there are plenty of people in the world, many of whom want some sort of relationship much more than I. As such I am content to be alone and just hang with friends and work on whatever’s on my plate in a week.

i can empathise as well

only dated one girl for a a few months, sorta platonic never kissed etc.
shes dated many guys after , but she seems to be the type that jumps form one guy to the next. ends up bad. apparently i was the only guy she didnt regret dating, we're still friends, wherelse the others all hate her hahaha.

it can be hard being lonely, and i like alarics advice. just be seen , be confident. Someone will come your way eventually.

Ya i say that's all the more reason to abstain and go for wet dreams that might involve a pretty girl in them.

any girl i think is cute most of the time has a boyfriend. and how do i get confidence to ask a girl, that's my biggest problem.

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want a girlfrend

Everyone finds confidence in their own way, it usually comes from confronting some insecurity that you have about yourself. But it’s different for everyone. And as for a girl already having a guy, this is why it’s very important to really talk to them first, get to know them, this way you avoid situations like that.

I never felt like a loser. I'm turning 20 and I never had a girlfriend although I'm always surrounded by girls, I can't help thanking myself every-time I'm with my crush. It's because I love girls! I just thought of it, if I had a girlfriend, I'm going to be in trouble for mingling with other girls.

And now my problem is, I'm in love!!! (Not again)
I didn't know how I'm so scared to talk to this girl I like. I never felt so scared before.

Anyways, I already failed twice. I cried to it, and I got over it by talking to those girls I once loved every-time. This girl I loved once said that she couldn't be in a relationship 'cause her parents won't let her. I can understand that. But for the most hurtful thing, after 3 years, without any hint, she's already in a relationship!!! What's worse is that we are classmates... her boyfriend is my friend, and she's my closest girl friend. What made me cry actually is that I don't wanna admit that I already loved her ever since that we're just friends. You can say that I silently friend-zoned her yeah. It hurts so much.

The first girl I loved is the worse, because we're best friends. It hurts like hell. Anyway, there's no difference in pain. It's just that, I'm already afraid.

So everytime a girl or anyone asks me why I don't have a girlfriend, I simply say: I'm not interested yet.
I never say, I'm happy single because it's a generic excuse. LOL


Sorry if I shed to much info about me. I just feel like sharing my experience for those still a single.
Oh by the way, I'm torn between lesbian couple, they're my best friends and we're kinda messed up three.

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Rey~

Patience is Virtue

Don't worry, there are many people in the exact same situation. It is normal! Don't press yourself!

I know how u feel.....

I thought u same way before I started dating freshmen year of high school

basicly yes have confidence....

and the EASIEST way....and the best way to find a gf is not through dating websites, blind dates, or set up by friends....but meeting girls through friends...

in hs when i started to date all my girl friends i met through my circle of friends.....and my msot recent was the same way ( i didnt date for over almost 5 eyars)

but just remember that there is someone for everyone....

it may be harder for us good guys....but it will happen....

if possible ask out a girl friend of yours......the worst that can happen is she feels bad and chooses to help u out....

and even though i hate it, a HUGE part of dating is rejection from girls (who in my opinion missed out on something special.....not to sound cocky, i just know they ussually would date some guy who "says" he cares about her, when all he wants is sex)

a huge thing is the way you maintain your looks and dress too....

if you have huge glasses, short shorts, old shorts, bland shirts, dark shirts, pimples all over your face ect then yeah it may be a bit harder....or you never shave....

a huge part of getting a girlfriend is to maintain your looks....in my opinion no one is ever truly ugly they just dont know how to look good....

I am not the best looking guy but I wear simple and colorful clothes, shave and shower every day, have somewhat short hair, maintain my complexion ect....

also it matters how good your manners are too....if you are constantly being a dude, burping, ect then that may look funny but nto be taken seriously

and also if you dont pull up your pants when they seem to fall that may look bad too...

underwear type may also be a factor, but thats nto as big a deal if you have pants that fit and sit at your waist so as not to show off your uw, or waistband even....either on accident or purpose

and to say I am fat, or too skinny, thats not true either...I know plenty of guys who are too skinny but can cover up that fact, or fat but wear clothes that are loose and dont show off their stomach either...

just have modern looking clothes, groom well, and overall look confident...

even for me one real gf was enough to change my overall self esteem and confidence around girls (though i am still very nervous and such, but thats my personality)

jsut know that you should never change whats inside, you personality, and your interests unless they are over obsessive....if a girl really lieks you she will liek u for the inside and the outside is an afterthought....

and I am guessing if you have lots fo friends they already know you are a good guy who respects girls and will help you out, and can trust you with their girl friends over some other guy who doesnt...but may be a 'ladies man"

Meh... I waited till I was 24 to get a gf... had a few in hs... but no serious ones...
Just grow some more mentally and better yourself. Don't rush into things.

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Longest Abstaining Record: 36 Days November 2011-December 2011
Date of Last Wet Dream: 04/28/2015
Total # of Wet Dreams: 16; First WD 07/21/2010

In my life time i have had 2 girlfriends my first one was when i was a teenager ( on scout camp) she asked me out i said yes and she fancied me too we both did a morning and good night hug it lasted for 3 months then out of the blue i was dumped!!!! Then my 2nd one was a college girl she asked me out at lunchtime and i said yes we both it lasted for 4 months then again i was sadly dumped!!! Never give up hope confidence works wonders i hope u do find a perfect girl friend

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Totally in that boat also. I never had a girlfriend (although I know I will have one in a while later, don't ask why cus its kind of weird). I have made some friends, and tried to make some really good friends, but they always have a boyfriend or I just don't have time to meet them often For that confidence issue that was pulled up, I used to hate myself before, never thought I would be wanted by anyone. But lately I have discovered that I am a unique individual with some pretty good looks and talents. Focus on what you love about yourself.

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That time when you did that thing and the that thing happens and then there was a bunch of other things that took us to another thing and we all do a thing, remember that? Nope, neither do I.

Scout camp?! Was she a counselor? Boy scouts usually don't allow girls on campgrounds, except adults

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That time when you did that thing and the that thing happens and then there was a bunch of other things that took us to another thing and we all do a thing, remember that? Nope, neither do I.

Baden Powell and his wife introduced girl scouts i was a scout for years mum was a scout leader and on scout camp girls were allowed to be with boys but not in the same tent she asked me out on a 3 day scout hiking day camp bf/gf was allowed and no she was not a counselor a 15 year old girl scout

The scout camp I went to had a few girl counselors. One or two years there, there was a swim counselor who was a hot blonde Scandinavian girl, with an accent and everything.

Especially to the younger kids the girl counselors are half mother figures and half crushes. :p

But I bet kids had a lot of "good memories" from her those summers.


Anyway the whole "girls don't like nice guys" stuff is not true at all and it's a bad attitude to have. It's not helpful to you, and you need to have respect and understanding for the people who you want to date. The guys that aren't nice guys have other good qualities that the girl likes, and when she learns that the guy isn't nice she'll dump him. Neither guys or girls are perfect at knowing these things.

What everyone wants is someone who's confident, healthy, well-balanced, has things in common with, and is passionate and good at the things they care about (work, hobbies, whatever). So focus on being the best version of yourself that you can be, and don't worry about trying to impress a partner, just try to impress yourself.

The other thing is that everyone assumes that everyone isn't interested in them (don't think that a girl is any better at this than you!). If you're in the mindset that no one is ever interested in you, then you won't notice the good vibes someone is giving you, and you won't be making those vibes yourself. If someone is a little bit interested in you and tries to feel you out, and you don't give back any vibes, they're going to think you're not interested in them. So if you like them you need to make sure that they know it! Eventually it will be obvious but unspoken that you like each other, and then you can be more direct and officially date.

After understanding these two things (to be the best version of yourself that you can be, and to make sure you let people know that you're interested), you just have to find someone who you want to date in the first place, which I have no advice for. :p

When I was 20, I had never had a girlfriend, never went on a date. Now I am married with kids.

You need to relax, smile, and gain confidence. Women flee from guys who seem desparate.

Make sure you don't MB too much. Either WDs, or infrequent MB. When I say infrequent, might be once a week. Twice a week. But no more often. Let it build up a bit. Let things build up enough to push you to take the risk of asking a girl out.

Consider a young woman who is an intelligent, attractive BBW. BBWs are not so used to having guys eat out of the palm of their hand, and may be more tolerant of shy guys who nervously ask them on a date.

Best of luck! Keep positive!!!

Phil