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PORN: Day 2
MB: Day 1

"The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning;great is your faithfulness" (Lamentations 3:22-23)

It has been many years since I've been in this forum, and I'm not sure if any of you out there recognize me. After having tried to achieve purity many times -- and after having failed each time -- I gave up my quest almost entirely during the latter years of college. Coupled with a wavering faith, I became a contented mb-er and heavy user of pornography. It wasn't until this past school year that the Lord brought me back to Him in a powerful way, opening my eyes to how desperately I need Him in my life. God has saved me, and as a token of my appreciation I want to show Him that I trust His Word and choose to apply it in every aspect of my life, including my sexuality.

The reason why I am back is threefold. Firstly, I need a community of believers that I can keep accountable with. This world is way too saturated with sexual temptations and lies for us Christians to have to fight by ourselves; as one Body we must band together, strapped with the shield of faith, to relinquish the flaming darts that are constantly raining down on us (Eph. 6:16). Secondly, I'm here because I want to be free from pornography forever. Studies have shown that pornography alters the brain, making us not only addicted to it, but also desensitized to the pleasures around us (including actual sex); see <http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU> and <http://au.businessinsider.com/porn-ruining-sex-life-2011-10>. And finally, last but not least, I'm back here because I still have hopes that I'll be able to experience a wetdream in the process

The sites above state that it takes up to 3 months for our brains to be purged from the debilitating effects of pornography. So I will start all of my posts with the number of consecutive days I've been porn-free. I will also post the number of days I've been mb-free, even though I don't necessarily see mb-ing as a sin -- rather as another aspect of my life that I could learn to control and, of course, to rekindle the hope of having a wetdream.

Here's to our savior, whose mercies are indeed new every morning; great is His faithfulness.

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"The only fatal thing is to sit down content with anything less than perfection." -C.S. Lewis

PORN: Day 3
MB: Day 2

Hi everyone, I'm currently reading a book called Trusting God by Jerry Bridges and wanted to share a passage that has been particularly helpful to me recently. It's from the subheading "Humility" from the last chapter of the book, "Giving thanks always."

"The immediate connection of the thoughts in I Peter 5:6-7 should be encouraging to us in times of adversity. The two verses say:

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

On the one hand we are to humble ourselves under God's mighty hand -- an expression equivalent to submitting with a spirit of humility to God's sovereign dealings with you. And on the other hand, we are to cast our anxieties on Him knowing that He cares for us. The anxieties, of course, arise out of the adversities that God's mighty hand brings into our lives. We are to accept the adversities but not the anxieties.

Our tendency is just the opposite. We seek to escape from or resist the adversities but all the while cling to the anxieties that they produce. The way to cast our anxieties on the Lord is through humbling ourselves under His sovereignty and then trusting Him in His wisdom and love" (emphasis added).

One of the most difficult things about purity for me is accepting the adversity it brings into my life, as well as trusting in God's wisdom and power. As the text says, I either tend to escape the adversity by succumbing to my desires, or I start worrying excessively about the whole process (which usually results in giving up the quest for purity). Instead, I must learn how to "accept the adversities but not the anxieties."

"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing" (James 1:2-4)

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"The only fatal thing is to sit down content with anything less than perfection." -C.S. Lewis

PORN: Day 4
MB: Day 3

Before going to bed, I'd like to share with you guys one thing that God reminded me of today: namely, making Him the main source of happiness in my life. Everyone in this world is looking for truth and/or happiness, and for a long time I thought that as a Christian we ought to prioritize truth way over happiness. This is why I was turned off by movies like Inception, where the protagonist decides to abandon reality for his personal happiness in the end. Yet, as time went on, this ideal of mine began sowing seeds of discontent towards Christianity: because if I were to be truly honest with myself, happiness was actually just as important to me as truth was.

Perhaps if I lived in the world of Inception (or the Matrix for that matter), and really had to make a final decision between truth and happiness, I would be forever lost in this existential dilemma. But -- praise be to the Lord -- it isn't so. We live in a universe that is governed by a good and loving God, and at the core of this universe there exist a synergy between the truth and happiness that we seek. There is no compromise. I strongly believe that an acceptance of the truth about Christ, coupled with entering into an organic union with Him, will produce the existential happiness that we seek. "Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, ‘Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water’” (John 7:38); an organic union with Christ should feel like a branch being grafted back into the vine from which it fell off from.

God doesn't necessarily want me to abstain from my sinful desires. He wants me to replace them with something even better -- namely, Himself. I will end with the first paragraph from C.S. Lewis's sermon, "The Weight of Glory."

"If you asked twenty good men today what they thought the highest of the virtues, nineteen of them would reply, Unselfishness. But if you had asked almost any of the great Christians of old, he would have replied, Love. You see what has happened? A negative term has been substituted for a positive, and this is of more than philological importance. The negative idea of Unselfishness carries with it the suggestion not primarily of securing good things for others, but of going without them ourselves, as if our abstinence and not their happiness was the important point. I do not thik this is the Christian virtue of Love. The New Testament has lots to say about self-denial, but not about self-denial as an end in itself. We are told to deny ourselves and to take up our crosses in order that we may follow Christ; and nearly every description of what we shall ultimately find if we do so contains an appeal to desire. If there lurks in most modern minds the notion that to desire our own good and earnestly to hope for the enjoyment of it is a bad thing, I submit that this notion has crept in from Kant and the Stoics and is no part of the Christian faith. Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by an offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased."

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"The only fatal thing is to sit down content with anything less than perfection." -C.S. Lewis

I will be following your posts. Our motives are very similar. Keep going.

-Andrew

Just to let everyone know:

I have asked bonbon not to continue with his daily posts. I have had some complaints ( actually disapproving comments, is probably a better description ) from a few members.

I tended to agree with them, and therefore asked bonbon to stop as the posts were more suited to a religious centric forum, rather than a wet dream forum. And, yes, I realise that some of our members do abstain for religious reasons, but the fact remains, this is a forum primarily about wet dreams.

AGT

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