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Hi guys,

When you try to abstain what makes you to give up and do it again?

I didn't masturbate for 11 years due to the problem I describe here: viewtopic.php?f=2&t=6071

After that I started to have some issues like waking up at night horny and rubbing against the mattress. This was happening in the last 5 months.

This made me once to masturbate during sleep to the full orgasm. Next day I was still aroused, bought coconut oil and started to play with myself and had some leak - i got desperate and finished it. I did it several times again during the next few days. But then stopped masturbating for 5 weeks.

I thought I could abstain and control myself but then I started playing with myself and edging a little using coconut oil again. Even though I knew from previous experience that this might suddenly cause a leak and make me masturbate I still was allowing myself to do playing with penis - like i would get naked and start rubbing against the pillow with a towel full of coconut oil on it.

In some cases I was lucky and nothing happened but then eventually leak happened. This made me anxious and I finished it to the end. After that I have a period of completely loosing control over myself - i might masturbate once a day for 3-4 days in a row. But now I could take myself under self-control again.

This happened last week. I regret about it since

1) During these 5 weeks of abstaining I accepted myself the way I am and didn't have any issues about masturbating (it took me 3 weeks to become normal - during these 3 weeks I was blaming myself for buying coconut oil and not being able to control myself from edging)

2) I already had this type of situation once (what was initial trigger to make me masturbate after 11 years) and didn't learn anything from it - like using coconut oil can cause leaks and make me masturbate. I still kept coconut oil in my place and didn't throw it away after masturbating 5 weeks ago.

I think what's hard for me is to control myself from playing with penis - this then eventually leads to masturbating to a full orgasm with a subsequent period of "going crazy" and doing MB once a day for a few days in a row. This happened to me once but I think I didn't learn anything from the first experience and did the same mistake once more.

Or may be I was too focused on accepting the past ( the fact that I masturbated after 11 years) so that I didn't really prepare myself for the future (i.e. didn't think how to proceed with urges to masturbate and how to self-control)

I think that another cause is coming from boredom and me not making a firm decision whether I want to masturbate or abstain + some bad luck due to the leak from minor arousal during edging. I hope now I can learn from my mistakes.

Do you guys think I should masturbate - i.e. one way to solve the issues is for me to just accept is part of life and go with - then I will just not think about it - it is what it is.

Or should I just accept all mistakes I made, all lessons I didn't learn and all instinct based decisions I made and start from scratch again to go for another 11 years of abstaining?

Please help me guys.

To answer your question: yes, if that's what you feel like doing.

Some other points to take into account.

It is debatable whether masturbation is a sin.
It certainly is not bad for you, if done in moderation - say 3 or 4 times a week.
It does not make you go blind.
You will not grow hair on the palm of your hand that you use to masturbate.
It does not (did not) stunt your growth.

Basically it is a pleasant, enjoyable experience, and should be treated as such.

From personal experience, I masturbated from when I was around 10 or 11.
I was able to father two healthy, normal daughters even though I masturbated while I was married to their mother.
I am not blind. ( do use spectacles for distance viewing)
I am 6 ft tall so my early MB did not stunt my growth - unless I was supposed to be 8 ft tall - then maybe it did.
I MB'd last night, and on close examination, there is no sign of hair on the palm of my hand. (in case I had gone blind - I also used my sense of touch to confirm that there was no hair growth on my palm.)

Just my thoughts on the subject.

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Guys,

Any advice? What is your opinion?

I really need some support.

Also, where are the usual members of the forum like Boxer, Futurewetdreamer?

Thanks

Hi Coolsup,

Last time we discussed, you were terrified of MB and any form of arousal. Your fear was making you ill. now your are blowing your load all the time haha! Good for you!

Although I know this is an AB forum, I am really happy for you. What you are doing is totally normal male behaviour. If it feels right, go with the MB flow for a while. AB is a choice, which also has it's rewards, but your mental health is more important than anything else and I am sure all the guys here would agree with that.

What is important to realise is that your body belongs to you and nobody else. Having fun with MB will do no harm. Once you are more comfortable with yourself and trust your instincts, you can then play around with AB and so on.

Welcome to normal manhood my friend, it's a great place to be! Trust your body and your feelings, they are not wrong.

Though most people on this site are interested in abstaining to reach a wet dream (or for some other self-control purpose), your discomfort with your body's own natural function and trivial sexual release indicates that maybe you should just keep whacking off until you get tired of it--not because it makes you feel bad, but because it's boring and trivial. Fantasizing about sex while engaging in a little carrot-snapping is perfectly normal and not worth worrying about. I think you owe it to yourself to engage in as much masturbation as possible.

Yes you should

You should mentally avoid touch your weenier.