Wet Dream Forum

Still wearing that thing? It doesn't look comfortable and I would worry about fungal growth.

I am still wearing it, it has not come off at all, and I can tell you that none of the issues you would think would happen have happened. I am able to keep very clean in it quite easily, and I've had well over a year to get used to it, it is as normal feeling to me as underwear now. I would also like to report that it has maintained a perfect track record in "doing its job" despite numerous attempts to defeat it in times of personal weakness.

Someone asked me about continuing to use the belt after marriage, and I didn't have an answer at the time, but my fiance and I have talked about it, and this is what was decided: we are sharing the choice of using the belt 50/50. The decision to put on the belt is mine, I can do it whenever I want, and she won't ever pressure me to or not to. The choice of removing the belt once it is on, however, is hers alone. She will continue to have the only keys. I am not sure if I actually plan on using it or not, however.

ALSO, somebody else asked me about having wet dreams. I actually do have them. I always have had them, actually, usually about once a month if I was not abstaining, twice or more a month if I was. With the belt, and the added frustration that comes from knowing I CAN'T masturbate (which is a totally different mindset than choosing to try not to) I have been having them almost weekly. Humorously, due to the nature of the interior design of the belt, if I am overly stimulated, I tend to wake up from the pressure that occurs. Instead, it would seem that I WD while flaccid sometimes. I don't know this for sure, but I do actually remember one of the dreams, and it was not sexual in any way. I saw a faucet in my dream, and as the handle turned, I knew I was starting to ejaculate. When it was opened all the way, a white liquid flowed out of the faucet (not much imagination there, ya) and then it was over. I woke up, and sure enough, WD.

One last note, while the belt does not prevent WD, it does change where the fluid "comes out". the internal tube reroutes both urine and semen down and between my legs instead of forward and out.

Hm, that sounds like an interesting--and useful--device there. Can you shower with it?

With regard to no MB after marriage, an enjoyable part of sex is both oral and mutual MB. In an open and honest relationship you would expect each partner to consider the desires of the other. This may involve your wife giving you a hand job at times when sex is either not possible or not desireable. This of course works both ways. It's important to talk about expectations and realise that you will not always feel horny at the same time, therefore there is often an element of putting the other person's needs above your own.

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iroselyem, yes, I can shower just fine in it, but as I posted previously, there are some extra steps I have to take to keep clean "down there" I use a bottle of soapy water with an angled nozzle. It was surprising how well it works.

Monkeymagic, that bilateral consideration is the idea we went into our consideration with in regards to the future use of this belt. By splitting the decisions, we each have a part in it, but that assumes we decide to use it at all. That being said, I agree with you totally.

With my replies out of the way, I have some... news. The purpose of waiting 2 years for our wedding was for us to both finish our 4 year degrees. The plan was to finish our last classes this spring, take a few month to plan the wedding / look for degree-related jobs, and get started on getting established.

he just told me that she failed her next-to-last class, which she took as an 8-week class. She can't take her last class without it, and they are not offering it this summer. This delays her graduation until the end of this fall semester (December 17th) IF they offer BOTH classes as 8-weeks then, and either March 9th or May 10th of next year if they don't.

We are considering starting the wedding-planning earlier by a bit to make up for it some, but we will not pull the trigger without the degrees and at least one of us employed, preferably with the other having some solid prospects.

Thanks, jawedge!

Well, she spoke with her guidance counselor yesterday, and the 1st of the two classes she needs to take will not be offered as an 8 week class, meaning she will not be able to take the second class this year. she plans on using the summer now to start interning and loiking for employment in her field based on her pending graduation.

I am taking MY last classes now, and SHOULD graduate this spring, and also start looking for a job.

BUT this delays our wedding (and thus our wedding night) by a full year.

she offered to let me out, since this was unplanned and her fault, and I was very tempted, but in the end I decided that a decision not to masturbate before marriage is worthless (making everything I've already done worthless) if I, in fact, masturbate befirre we are married.

sigh.

Sorry to hear that man,

Really feel for you, a year is a long time in some respects, but I'm sure you will get through it!
Gives you enough time to get a job and some money saved though. Your dedication to your cause is really admirable. Keep up the good work.


You are already reaching legend status for your wholehearted chastity belt wearing;)

If it gets too difficult just let us know and someone from the forum will encourage you!

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The key to WD is no PMO!

I mean no disrespect, but I find that "chastity device" to be... I have no words.

I reminds me of Opus Dei's devices for self torture/discipline... Not nice at all

No disrespect taken. I would say different strokes for different folks... but that may be a bit... counter-intuitive in this case.

Due to lapsed enrollment (caused by class not being available), and due to the failed class, she [my fiance] will not be eligible for continued financial aid until AFTER she retakes this class in the fall. That's money we will really struggle to have in time. worst case it will lead to further delay. So far, we have gotten by on just grants, no loans, and we committed to being debt free before marriage, which we are right now. If she has to take out a loan to finish school, that will lead to a delay, either we take the loan and wait while we pay it off, or she doesn't take the loan and we wait until we can pay for the class. meanwhile, job search is progressing, though slowly.