Newbie Here - Concerns about SE

[ldnguy]

Hi all

Been a member for a few months now, finally decided to give it ago. I've been MB regularly since about 9, so I've never had a wet dream. Trying things out now.

So far it's been 9 days. My goal is 21 days. 8 days didn't seem so bad since I've been sick and really didn't feel like doing anything. Today was a little harder though.

I'm reading about spontaneous ejaculation and am getting concerned - I'm in a lot of meetings and can't have this happen to me at work. Today I was at the gym on the elliptical and after about 30 minutes, all of a sudden I got this strong urge to pee. I concentrated really hard and got off right away. When I got home (gym is in my apt building), I went pee but only maybe 2 oz? Is this what a SE feels like?

Has anyone heard of idoser? It's biaural beats - any opinions? I've listened to one called 'wet dream' last night and had nice feelings but nothing physical happen.

[ldnguy]

Up to day 11 now. I've stopped going to the gym for now until I know a bit more about SE. Almost blew it last night (excuse the pun) but managed to stop.

As mentioned, I've been sick the past week. Last night I sneezed and it felt like I shot out a bit of pee. Checked things out and I'm pretty sure I shot out precum.

[Buddy]

Hey there!

Its was was not an SE if it was urine that came out of your urethra. An SE usually happends after you urinate, when you push too much during a bowel movement or when doing a lot of pressure on your abdomonal area like during exercise. Its a gush of semen that comes out of your penis and you have no control over it. Try not to put too much pressure when you urinate, push during #2 on the toilet and to pass gas. I carry an extra pair of underwears with me just in caseHope this helps. Keep us posted.

[ldnguy]

I'm pretty sure it was precum because it was slipperly in texture, but came out forcefully like when you push out those last few drops of urine. It was only a drop or two, not a significant quantity.

So a SE happens when you stress like when lifting, BM or when you urinate? It's not like sitting at the computer working along and all of a sudden a gush happens?

What does a SE feel like at the beginning? Like you have to urinate? I'm wondering if I stopped just in time at the gym?

On a side note, I've noticed changes for the better - erections are larger/fuller.

[Buddy]

right.. Highly unlikely it will happen like in front of the computer. You will feel like you need to urinate right before SE. Yes.. Erections will be strongers while AB. Good luck. Keep me posted.

[ldnguy]

Thats a relief. I was worried I'd be working at my desk at work and it could happen.

Day 13 now...

[Buddy]

Hang in there. I have not MB in alsmot 3 months since Aug. 2 2010. The first two weeks are the most difficult. Drink cold water and do something to keep you busy to avoid MB. Remember.... No porn and No edging.

[georgiaboy]

Buddy, does drinking cold water really help? Any ideas how or why?

I've had mild success with dumping ice water on my penis to help "chill" but, although it provides an immediate fix, the novelty of it often leaves me even more aroused.

[ldnguy]

Well - I did something stupid last night. I couldn't sleep - kept thinking about sexual thoughts. Got up around 2:00 and went on the computer. Managed to find some porn... I behaved myself - no touching - looked down and saw a precum spot on my underwear. It was a mistake wearing lycra underwear (chose my gym underwear to wear since I could see any precum in the morning) cause I just got more aroused. Anyway, I resisted the urge to touch anything.

I bent down to pick up something off the floor - that's when it happened. Went from nearly flaccid to semi-hard state instantly, tried to hold it back but ended up with about 5 contractions and 3 spurts. I wasn't hard and didn't feel anything - no orgasm feelings, just a few contractions from below.

I could get to sleep after that. Last time I tried abstaining - got to a week before MB. After that, when I MB, I had this awful feeling inside - this time no feeling like that. I have to fly tomorrow and I was kind of worried about having an SE on the plane from the vibrations. Maybe this was my conscious way of ensuring I don't without breaking by abstinence? In fact today I seem to be more horny than yesterday - though not erect, I'm definitely 'fuller'.

I hope this isn't considered breaking my abstinence, since it didn't feel like anything and no touching was involved. I'm not sure if its considered a SE? Don't know if I could keep going if I had to start back at day one. Hoping your answer would be I didn't MB.

This would be 2 weeks tonight around 8pm.

I also put some garbage bags between my sheets and mattress - I'm thinking consciously my brain was preventing any 'relief release' while sleeping since I didn't want to ruin my mattress. What do you guys do?

[georgiaboy]

If the porn you accessed had anything to do with your getting hard its not truly "spontaneous," however I have found that this sort of release has far less of a negative setback on AB than all-out MB. I actually did something similar today where I started edging, stopped while I thought it was still under control, then came a few seconds later. I always reset my counter; however I know from experience it is far from a total reset as long as you resist temptation in the days ahead.

Keep AB, my friend! Don't stop now.

[ldnguy]

This is the thing... I don't think I've ever cum before without being hard, or at least semi-hard. I was completely soft, felt a strange sensation and then got a little hard - like a chubby - then out it came.

I'm glad this doesn't set me back too much. I'll definitely not cave the next few days. Though I'm not sure I want to reset my counter - don't know if I can mentally start back at day 0.

[ldnguy]

Well, since there was no touching, I'd say it wasn't MB - in my books, so I won't reset my last day masturbated to orgasm to 0 (there was no orgasm), but I will reset my day, like georgaboy has.

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