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[redant]

Hi Everyone,

I only found the forum a couple of days ago.
Short background first.
I am 38, coming out of a failed marriage recently. Been masturbating since a teenager. Longest time not masturbating was probably 10-15 days. Porn was/is a part(struggle ?) of my life. I have quit porn on may occasions - one time for a period of 152 days (which I am very proud of). Nevertheless, the problems in marriage and urges etc etc always takes me back to it for an escape.

I used to get wet dreams like every other average guy. No specific frequency. More when I was younger. My masturbation frequency however is pretty much once a day. So the wet dreams have all but come to a stop. I have however been having the occasional "dry" wet dream. The orgasms is always very real and cool, but I miss the ejaculation.

So about 21 days ago, I decided to work towards a "wet" wet dream
I stopped watching any form of porn or suggestive / provocative material, and I stopped masturbating.
I was just beginning to worry that I've had my last wet dream for life, when it happened. Roughly at midnight (which was odd - since I remember getting wet dreams in the early morning hours). It was a nice orgasm with a full (20 day) load.
I woke up about one-third into the ejaculation, and could still feel the pleasure of the orgasm, which was brilliant.

The ejaculation was a little uncomfortable and even painful.
I joined gym two days ago, and as part of my routine, I started drinking 3 liters of water a day. Been running to the toilet every hour since. I think the ejaculation was a little painful because at that time, my bladder and my testicles were both fighting for control of the pipeline. It was the same as when you urinate straight after you have ejaculated.
Perhaps it was because of the water, but perhaps simply because I haven't had a fully loaded wet dream in probably years.

Noticeable also, was that I could not remember a dream, which is odd for me, because I had a brain-operation a year ago, and one of the side effects is being able to recall / remember dreams much better than perhaps most people. So much so, that I can remember dreams from every single night.

Anyway, so I was still determined to wait for another WD. I was wondering if I was going to have to wait another 20 days.
But you are not going to believe this, day 21 (last night), I had wet dream number 2. This time, the timing was right (around 6AM). The volume was much less than the previous night, but the orgasm was fantastic and the ejaculation no longer painful. I woke up only a minute or so after the ejaculation, as there was still some semen in the pipe when I pressed it. It was so awesome, I lay there on my bed with a natural erection for 30 minutes - it just wouldn't go away.
Also, and perhaps more importantly, the dream was remembered this time and let me tell you: it is a dream that I will NEVER EVER forget. It was short, but I remember everything - vividly, even dialogue. A mind-blowing fantasy of mine that came true.

I was blessed to get this two days in a row, and I'm very grateful.
As for me, I am hungry for more. Right now, I have no interest in porn (I thank God, and I hope it stays that way), and I am going to continue to abstain from MB. Going to keep on exercising and keep on drinking water. I hope the WD frequency will increase, and I will keep you posted when the next one happens.

RED

[Texanguy]

It seems like you are lucky enough to get WD's more easily than many can. I suggest that you use the memory of the WD to help train your brain to get your orgams in exciting dream situations while at the same time try to program yourself away from MB as an outlet.

Good luck and keep us posted!

[redant]

Well spoken Texanguy - that is good advice and I shall heed it.
Touch wood (pardon the pun) about the frequency.
If my wet dreams are more regular, I don't see any need for MB in the short term. But only time will tell what the frequency will be from now on.

Not that I have a problem with MB, but like all of you here, I guess I prefer a wet dream.
MB almost always takes away from me - including my excitement and erection. It seems to be a very short term fix.
It even leaves me sore from time to time, and for some reason I have a sense of guilt.

But this last wet dream left me excited, rejuvenated and on a natural high - not to mention the 30 minute erection.
Red

[georgiaboy]

It sounds pretty awesome, my friend! May you have many more to come.

[redant]

Hi

BAM !!! number 3.

Day 24 of AB (3 days after the last WD).

I woke up at 6, slightly disappointed that I had no WD, and decided to lay down for another few minutes. Fell asleep, and amazingly within 30 minutes I had an absolutely super erotic wet dream with a superb orgasm, and decent amount of semen.

So that is 3 wet dreams in 24 days since I started AB. If you exclude the time of AB since last MB and use the first WD as a starting point, then I've actually had 3 wet dreams in 6 days. Now if only I could keep that frequency up - wouldn't I be the man ? However, I think that is a bit unrealistic. But one can hope....

In the meanwhile I will keep up with the AB, rigorous daily exercise, balanced eating plan and lots of water. Here's to my body, at age 38, that still functions, and gives me so much pleasure and so much to live for.

Mods - feel free to move this to the journal / diary section.

Thanks
REd

[redant]

Update: It has now been six days since the last WD, and nothing else yet.
But I am patient and every night when I go to bed, I am exited about the prospect of a potential WD.

In the meanwhile, I do have reached a milestone which I wanted to share:
Today marks 1 month of no porn (or MB) for me.

My intention is to rake in as many WDs as possible (until I find a sex partner again).
As for the porn, it is my intention to try and shake it off for life.

Red

[georgiaboy]

Way to go, redant! A month with no porn or MB! Enjoy every minute of tour newfound freedom and may you have countless WDs to come!

[Squeeze]

Your story is awesome, Red! THanks so much for sharing. You are 2 years older than me, so if you can do it, so can I! I think that staying away from porn and exercising regularly are two key components to your success. But in you # of wet dreams experienced you have 100 so I guess that means that you used to get them quite often when you were younger. Did you not MB that much when you were a teen, etc? Or did you get both? I would get WDs once in a while, but not too often bec I MBd too much!

[redant]

Thank you Squeeze and Georgiaboy,

It is indeed liberating. I know it is early days, but although porn and MB seems like an escape from stress and problems, they are in fact devices of enslavement and addiction (as you all know). After 34 days of no porn or MB, I feel as if a huge burden has been lifted from me. Yes I am sure cravings and buzzez will come, but my strategy is three-fold:

1. Stay focused on the objective and method to accomplish the goal
2. Divert cravings through exercise, hobbies etc.
3. Rely on WDs to relieve (some of) the sexual tension

There was a time when I just became of age as a teenager. I discovered MB before WDs would start. But some time after that, I developed a huge sense of MB guilt, partly because of lack of proper education on the subject, and also because of some things taught in the church back then. So there was some long stretches of time that I would not MB. The result was fairly frequent WDs.
So that is where I got to my 100 mark - no doubt. I can't really remember, but it was typically once a week.
But as a grown up, my WDs have been sporadic and scarce at best, because of MB (and sex for that matter).
And that brings me to my present situation

REd

[redant]

I am back to report WET DREAM NUMBER 4 !!!

Hey everyone. Yip, last night, 13 days after the last WD I had number 4.
So the stats look like this:
38 days of AB in total.
First WD after 21 days.
4 WDs in the 38 days.

As you can imagine, I am very pleased. I feel relaxed and yet energized at the same time. The WD itself was fabulous. I went to bed at 23:15 and I had the WD at 23:58. I woke up just as I started to ejaculate, which is always a bonus since I get to really feel the orgasm and contractions.

I have to tell you a little about the dream. Don't worry, I respect the rules and everyone's commitment. The dream was actually not really erotic or sexual in nature, but it was magical. I dreamed I was reciting poetry to a woman (there had to be a woman, right ? ). She was laying down with her eyes closed. No sex or nudity at all. I brought my mouth closer to hers, while I recited the poetry. And then she moved her head up a little and kissed me. The moment she did that, I felt the amazing rush of the onset of an orgasm. This is where it gets interesting. I was somehow aware of this in my dream, and I was amazed that I could feel the beginning of an orgasm from a simple kiss. As the kiss stopped, I felt the rush stopping. So I kissed back, and the rush continued. And then I opened her mouth with mine and deliberately kissed more passionately to push for the orgasm. And the next minute I reached the peak of the orgasm and I woke up just as the ejaculation started. Absolutely marvelous. Again, I hope I am still within the limits of exploring and detailing the WD. My intention is only to motivate.

Some interesting observations I made:
1.) Even though WDs occur often for many of us in the mornings just before sunrise, this is again only speculation and not a given scientific fact. In this case my WD occurred at midnight, and less than 40 minutes after falling asleep. Two of my recent four WDs occurred at this hour.

2.) I was strangely and magically a little bit in control of this dream, and almost "manipulated" it to cause a WD.

3.) For years I have MB and watched porn. Often in secrecy with my wife sleeping etc. I am sure many of you can relate. This often went hand in hand with edging and making sure I didn't ejaculate at the wrong time or at the wrong place for that matter, which could lead to a very embarrassing situation. This, somehow crossed over to my dreams as well. In all the WDs that I can remember for the last couple of years, no matter how erotic the dream was, I always tried to prevent the ejaculation, or even the situation in which I was to avoid embarrassment (as if it was real). This often led to a "blotched" and less fulfilling WD, which was very frustrating.

However, last night, for the first time, I clearly remember giving it EVERYTHING and holding nothing back. Perhaps it is linked to my divorce (freedom?), but I also feel it is linked to the absence of MB and edging.

Anyways, I am rambling. But this was in essence a glorious, guilt-free, magical WD.

ReD

[Olórë]

Huh, that's interesting that you had the WD that quickly after falling asleep. I believe that REM sleep is supposed to generally take an hour and a half the first cycle, unless you haven't been getting enough sleep. If that happened to be the case then it's not uncommon to start dreaming just from dosing off a bit.

Anyway, it's great that you're getting these so frequently now. Hopefully the same will start happening for me. Also, I totally feel you on feeling free from MB and porn. My main reason for quitting both is tied to being a Christian and my beliefs, but it definitely has other benefits as well, such as not wasting so much time looking at porn when I could be either sleeping or working on projects.

With such a strong addiction as something sexual like this is, I don't think that the temptation will ever truly leave for good, but at the very least I can say that for me it continues to come less and less the longer I go.

[redant]

Yes, as I mentioned, this is the second of my WDs that occurred at around midnight, and shortly after I fell asleep.
I am not specifically tired. I am on leave and have been getting good sleep.
Incidentally, the day before this last WD, I slept till 9AM in the morning (giving my body plenty of dream time for a WD), but nothing happened.

I think that even though early morning WDs are frequent among many, by no means is it limited to that time of the day.
I've read elsewhere about a guy who just took a nap on a sofa in the middle of the day, and he had a WD (including ejaculation).

So personally, I don't think that you have to be in REM sleep or any other sleep pattern for that matter.

[Olórë]

Well, it's possible that you could have a "wet dream" without the dream, which would take care of the whole REM thing. I'm not totally sure if there are other factors that could lead to going into REM sleep faster or not. I just know what I said in the previous post because we went over that recently in my BIO class.

[redant]

Hey guys,

Get a load (pun intentional ) of this: I had WD number 5 last night. Happened at 3:15AM.Two days after number 4. The dream was kind of weird (not very erotic), but here is the thing: I think I experienced a multiple orgasm or something very close to it for the first time in my life.
I distinctly remember ejaculating 3 times in the same dream. All 3 ejaculations went together with orgasms, and even though they happened separately from each other, they did feel connected and it felt like one long orgasm, with the 3rd part being absolutely immense. In the dream the amount of semen was completely out of control - just kept on coming. The volume was much less in the real world (I don't think there is much left ), but even in my jock, I saw what appeared to be a couple of stains instead of the usual one big stain.
It is hard to connect real time to dream time, but considering the dream and time involved, I would say the orgasm went on for about a minute, maybe longer. I woke up shortly afterward, and again felt that complete and utter satisfaction and relaxation that I have been feeling after my WDs, which is what I think good sex (maybe I should say extraordinary good sex) is supposed to do for you.

Honestly, I am not sure I want to give this up soon.

[Texanguy]

I would say the orgasm went on for about a minute, maybe longer. I woke up shortly afterward, and again felt that complete and utter satisfaction and relaxation that I have been feeling after my WDs...

It sounds like you are one of those guys who gets WD's easily and for whom they are much moe enjoyable than MB. In a way, the effects of the WD continue long after it's over, since you would most likely not have the same kinds of feelings after MB.

Honestly, I am not sure I want to give this up soon.

There's no reason why you should give it up. If give up MB instead, the WD's may become even more frequent and intense. Isn't it really kind of 'immature' to go back to MB when WD's are more intense, more natural, and have better after effects?

[redant]

How right you are Texanguy. If I think about it, not one of my MB orgasms or even sex orgasms (with my ex-wife) was ever as good as my WD orgasms.
My short to medium term goal is to keep this up and see how the WDs continue.
But my bigger and longer term goal is to get rid of the porn habit once and for all. For now, I think not MB is aiding me in this goal. So I have two good reasons not to go back to MB.