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At what age did you first become old enough to make decisions for yourself about sexual activity (MB, sexual kissing, vaginal/anal/oral sex, etc.) knowing the difference between right and wrong? You may have decided that you weren't old enough for certain, or any, sexual behaviour for example at age [whatever,] but you were old enough to make and be responsible for that decision. I'm asking about the age where you were old enough to decide.

I wouldn't be suprised if the opinion of when someone is old enough to consent to sexual activity changes as one gets older. For me, personally, if someone asked me in my early teens whether I was old enough to decide, I would have said absolutely. Now as a man in my 30s, I don't think I had the emotional maturity or life experience necessary to decide until I was at least in high school. I think as a general rule, most young people will be better off if they wait until they are AT LEAST 16, if not older, to become sexually active. Just my opinion the subject.

Thanks for the replies so far, perhaps some of you new members can give your point of view.

These questions seem to be part of some left wing agenda to lower the age of consent IMO.

But really aren't these all a matter of 20/20 hindsight, where you may choose do something thinking ur ready, but later on regret it.

"first become old enough to make decisions for yourself about sexual activity "

Like WTH does that mean, a bell doesn't ring when someone suddenly attains this, there's no ceremony or party, FFS.

People always make decisions for themselves, but other people can be made to do things they otherwise wouldnt if they were given all the facts.

So a pedophile may convince a kid to flash himself and touch himself....the kid would no wat an erection is and heck may even know all about "baby making" but if he knew that such an activity was not normal in that context, he wouldnt have done that. I guess by ur logic as soon as he is aware of societal dictates and conformity or hell even given a lesson about the birds and the bees, he is OLD ENOUGH to make that decision.

People dont think they can make out and 13 and suddenly realise they're anally able at 14 but not oral till 17

Ur question is basically asking "apart from those of u who have been abused when did u first learn about physical relations"

I'm all for choice, but the stupidity of some people and their hedonistic ideals actually makes me question even the right to vote...this is why i feel there should be stricter controls on teenagers and that we really put it into their brains that theres better things to do than fuck around, but if they truly think a life of decadence is the only way to appreciate life...meh

well sorry for the rant, jst the economist inside of me feels this obsession with sex apparent in so many secitons of humanity is a waste of time, energy and resources...and that last paragraph isnt talking about any1 just society in general.

Like I used to fool around with my sister (two years my senior) from age 7 or so all the way up to age 14. We had sex once when I was age 10. Do I think I knew how to handle sex or anything at that point? No. Was it harmful to me to engage in sexual acts at a young age? No. However, through middle and high school, I never had a girlfriend or anything because I guess I wasn't curious like other guys were. I had already seen and done pretty much everything. I think this may have attributed to my shyness around girls and stuff, but I'm not sure why. I knew in high school I didn't want to have sex, and I engaged for sex the second time last summer (I considered it losing my virginity for various reasons) with a girl I am totally in love with. We are currently in a long distance relationship.

You say you don't think you knew how to handle sex at age 10, what do you mean by that? I agree that your experience was harmless.

I knew that it made babies, but hey my sister said it was cool as long as I wore a condom right?

Mainly I wasn't educated enough besides, this goes here and this feels good. the fact is, I didn't even produce any semen yet or anything at the time when we did have sex.

You illustrate the point that if a 10 year-old has consensual sex, it isn't necessarily abuse. There were laws not so long ago where all homosexual acts were illegal despite consent, the current laws regarding young adolescent sex are also repressive.

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New members, could you vote in the poll?

The results so far show lot of minors feel old enough to make decisions about how to behave sexually - many will feel they're not mature enough mentally or physically - we all mature at different rates. If a minor is in love with another minor or a major, a sexual relationship can be a beautiful way to express this love. Very young minors also need to be protected from sexual relationships with adults, because adults would be abusing the power that they have due to their life experience, if they had sex with someone that young. If a minor has a crush on someone in a position of authority over them, such as a his/her teacher, the teacher would be abusing his or her position of trust if (s)he was to have a sexual relationship with his/her student. It's right for there to be laws to protect people from being sexually exploited. I've chosen to not have sex yet, because I've not found someone I want to have such a relationship with. IMHO it's wrong to assume all relationships involving minors are abusive. Sexual relationships between: two ten year-olds; an 18 year-old and a 14 year-old; a 20-something and a teen; for example, all can be non-abusive. The nature of the relationship is more important than the age of the people having it.